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80 Year Old Woman to Marry 35 Year Old Toyboy

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I have no right to criticise large age gap partnerships as I know many are very successful. I am sure many on here are in one or know of one.

But really, this woman met him online and she seems to be the only one who cannot see he is out for what he can get.

Good grief woman! I am in my 60s and if a 50 year old came on to me I would be suspicious, let alone a 35 year old.

Lynibis
over a year ago
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I'm in an age gap relationship, and I have had this asked to me, am I with my husband for his money 😂 what money? Maybe she just wants to live out the rest of her days with someone? Maybe there is a prior arrangement? Maybe its just right people wrong lifetime, either way good luck to them

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nicolajaynehend

Hi Lynibis I was in age gap relationship. I was 35 and he was 70 years old. It lasted 9 years. I was going to have his child but lost it. But we were very happy for these nine years. Then when I was in my early 40s I met a lovely man and he was 14 years older then me. Again we wear very happy. Again I was going to have is child this time it was twins but I lost them. That was very hard for both of us. And we broke up but stayed friends. He went on to have children . I now in a relationship wear the age gap is 10 years. He is in his early 60s. This one for keeps. We are very happy. . we have are ups and downs. Money is tight. But we love one other.. He help me when I lost my dad. We think alike to. Which some time can be very funny. ☺ none of my relationships wear about money. And yes i got some funny looks and told i was a gold digger. Buti all ways payed my way. And i still do. . Yes you can have a happy relationship with a older person. But there are some that just do it for money and frame . ☺

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Username50108

This will sound really sexist, but I can understand a younger woman being with an older man but not a younger man being with an older woman, the whole Shirley Valentine syndrome. Plus women are more likely to lose their libido after the menopause, I know it's not the same for everyone but the majority and I don't know any 35 year old men that would put up with that for long. Having said all that though, I truly hope it works out for them for however long it lasts

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Lynibis

I have to agree no matter how sexist it sounds. Probably to do with the man, supposedly being the protector, and the fact that women are, on average, 7 years more mature than men in their youth so they tend to go for older men.

As I said originally, I know there are lots of successful age gap relationships, as with nicolajaynehend, but this way round and 45 years does not sit right with me.

I myself dated a guy of 24 when I was 42 for 3 years and remained friends when he moved away. However, if I were 80 I would be so embarrassed showing my body, wrinkles and all, to a fit 35 year old. Aches and pains, incontinence pads and the inevitability of short term only, would make me feel very selfish. She must have bags of confidence in herself.

I would not impose myself on a much younger man and conversely I would not want to be with a man older than me, so looks like I will be a singleton until I shuffle off this mortal coil!

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Username50108

Lynibis I was thinking the same about me only yesterday. I saw an ad online for over 50s dating and although I am still 3 years and a month off of that, I just can't imagine dating ever again. Knowing how dating was when I was actively dating, there is no way I could go through that being older and (maybe) wiser.

I have dated older men but none that were 45 years older. How are they going to have any mutual interests at that age, lifestyle will be totally different too? Can just imagine in the throws of passion (if possible) her saying, 'ooh hang on a minute, my hips gone' and when laughing about it having the inevitable weak bladder issue. Good on her for going for it, but not for me

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Lynibis

Dilligaf Ha ha, I didn't know whether to laugh or vomit when she said they used a whole tube of KY Jelly on the first night!

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Username50108

Lynibis did she say what size tube it was out of interest?

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Lynibis

😂😂😂@Dilligaf

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MeestairChrees

Lynibis thanks for that. You just made me gag. This whole situation is pretty weird.

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Username50108

MeestairChrees she probably did too 🤭

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MeestairChrees

Dilligaf 😳🤮😂

I really ought to have seen that coming.

... Don't. My mind went there this time 😳

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Username50108

MeestairChrees not so bad when you can take your teeth out anyway (see I didn't go there 😇 )

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Pjran

Oh dear, it’s quite sad really to think that woman isnt suspicious. If she was one of my family I’d take her to the doctors as she might have dementia! Bless her, she certainly needs thick skin with all the comments she is bound to overhear saying how nice her grandson is taking her out.

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sunny101

Oh my! I've just watched an interview from a recorded programme. I am ashamed to admit I am a cynic where this type of situation is concerned. It works the other way round but I don't think this poor lady wants to hear what most people are thinking. I hope it makes her happy and he gives her companionship for many, many years. There are some things you just don't want to hear......... I got to the part of the interview where she said she'd gotten through a tube of KY and that was the end of me. Image

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Chelsea0121

If you're in love then why not. If those involved are happy and healthy regardless of age then go for it.

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Username65022

I think you’re right 🙏🏻

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Lynibis

Sorry girls, but if a 35 year old handsome guy is sexually attracted to an 80 year old woman, he hasn't got a mother complex but rather a grandmother complex. No one will convince me it is normal, but I acknowledge it takes all sorts to make a world.

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Chelsea0121

Lynibis not always the case you cant help who you are attracted too

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Username65022

Lynibis I think love is blind when you fell in love with someone then you only want to see him or her no age no wealth I seen lots people getting married with huge age gap 😊

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Lynibis

chelseaturpin I am making the point that it is not normal. How many relationships of that kind are there? I would suggest very few if it is worthy of being on tv. I am 66 and would be very worried if a handsome 35 year old was trying to bed me!

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Lynibis

Sanitation1234 they fell in love online so yes very blind and he proposed after 15 days. If it were my mother I would be very suss. I think meeting of minds has no age limit but bodies................?

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Username65022

My husband only 2years older than me love💕each other very much 😊nothing to say after watching her interview on YouTube I only can say he just wants British passport that’s it

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Username50108

If I went out with a male 45 years my junior I would definitely put him to bed every night, plus change his nappy, give him his dummy back and teach him to talk. That's the reality of the age gap this size. If she has grandchildren they could be older than him and calling him dad.

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Username65022
😂
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sunny101

He's probably got some great moves........

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ukheather

Age is just a number that shouldn’t affect anything.

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KirsteyJames

I dont know if i will fancy my wife when she is old and wrinkly 🤣 we joke about it all the time. People say age is just a number but is it really. When i see age gaps like that it just makes me think of her being 45 when he was born 🤢

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Username50108

KirsteyJames I.Q is just a number but a 45 year difference in that.....

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Username65022
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Faye1

I’m spilt on this one. part of me thinks it’s wrong and he may be after her money. but part of me thinks well it’s their life and if they are happy who am I to judge

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Lynibis

I don't advocate that they should not be together if that is what they want, but have to wonder at his motives. Also, to all the folk who think it is ok i wonder how you would feel if it were your mother and you ended up with a stepfather who might be 25 years younger than you.

The thing with debates is that if you feel your side is correct and normal you have to remember the other side feel the same. A lot of arguments have two distinct routes that can lead to both being right or both being wrong but some debates, of course, there is a very clear right or wrong as in something like murder.

In this comment 'you' is not you Faye1 but people in general lol.

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Pjran

Has anyone heard that her partner was interviewed? I found the interview where she was on the sofa with Phil & Holly and I haven’t watched all of it so just wondering if the Egyptian boyfriend was there.

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sunny101

No he wasn't there but you HAVE to watch it all! It was a 'watch through your fingers' session that had me cringing and laughing at the same time. Whatever makes her happy - just hope he doesn't take advantage of her.

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Pjran

angemski yes I found it on YouTube. Well she’s got spirit, good luck to her. Let’s hope she lives another 20 years but in Cairo.

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DannySpeed

I don't think it matters if there is an age gap although I know it ticks people off if they see a really old woman with a very young bloke but, in this day and age, it's going to be all the care she gets if the NHS fails.

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Lynibis

Yes, I am sure he will stick around for that. Not. A friend of a friend took up with a Turkish guy she met online. She was about 28 stone and 6' 1" and a fair bit older. He was, apparently, 5' 8" and drop dead gorgeous. They got married and the home office hounded them for two years convinced he was not genuine. Went to their house unexpectedly etc hoping to catch them out but eventually granted him his passport. The day he got it. ....the very day......he walked out on her and she subsequently found out he had a wife and kids in turkey. I may be cynical, but cynicism can keep you safe.

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sunny101

Lynibis I am an optimist but I'm with you on this one. (being a cynic means self-preservation)

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DannySpeed

Lynibis he will if he is in the will

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Lynibis

DannySpeed Yes but he may hasten her demise by being a bit neglectful, can't see him wanting to do intimate care of someone in their 80s.

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Pjran

Lynibis well their first intimate session involved a whole tube of KY Jelly! So I’m sure he’ll cope with other tasks.

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Lynibis

Pjran lol, I hear you!

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AgnesFaludi

I am 36....but I could not marry with an 80 y old.....it is like being with someone who is older than your parents....ooops

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CaroleBallard

I'm in a 19 year gap relationship with a bloke who is older than I am. It seems fine for older men and younger women but not the other way round. Sexist or what? Why can't women be older?

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floygarre56

I think good for her if he is not abusing her money 🙂 you only live once

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Lynibis

I don't believe any man in his 30s can be physically attracted to a woman in her 80s. It is more like she will be easy to control and dependent on him. I am not sure if people read all the comments on a thread before adding their own comment. If you haven't then do read my reply to Danny Speed above about the Turkish guy.

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floygarre56

Lynibis I sure will. But I dont know about all that "I don't believe any man in his 30s can be physically attracted to a woman in her 80s. " thing. Maybe he have some fetish or trauma that causes him to be attracted to way older woman. Well, but I think we will never know

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Lynibis

floygarre56 yes I agree. As they say, it takes all sorts to make a world. I have heard of websites where men can indulge their fetish for grossly overweight women and also men who want to wear nappies and be babied.

It is just that we hear so many cases of older women being conned by younger men from poorer countries I cannot help being suspicious.

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floygarre56

Lynibis yes, I have to agree with you.. and thats sad

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hspexy

Not sure if I’d do this myself, but having read about the people who have, I say good luck to them. A lot of relationships don’t last anyway, so I guess enjoy it while it lasts

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catash12041958

Live and let live. It doesn't matter if both are happy. Age gaps don't automatically lead to the younger partner straying, same age partners can do that too! My husband is 10 years younger than me but there is no difference really. I never before i met him dated anybody 4 years younger always preferred older men but Cupid obviously isn't ageist.😉

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