How Much Autonomy You Allow Your Children?

My eldest has a lots she 17 and needs to be able to do things herself.

The younger 2 are 4 and 6 they get asked if they want planned dinner and get to choose clothes from shops but I usually get them out for them on a day to day basis.

I encourage all of them to think and do for themselves as they important life skills

My kids are 7 and 4, they can choose what dinner they will have,as my older is very fussy, and most we all have different food preferences. Regarding clothes,mostly I am buying without them,as if you take them to the shop they like most what is there and wanna get more then they really need. I am not often buying clothes in store, as choices is not so big, more prefer online shopping where you can get lots on sale.

I currently don't have any children of my own, but I believe in a policy of being firm but fair. For example, if I had a child I would get them to do certain chores around the house but certainly not treat them like slaves, and give them a little reward at the end of each week or something. When it comes to clothing I'd probably do the same as you.

My child is only 15 months but I think it is good to give them options and don't obligate them