Children Not Being Taught the Basics
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Regulars on here may have sussed that I work with children from 0 to 15ish on a daily basis. More and more I am finding that young children pre school and just starting are unable to string a sentence together and their pronunciation and enunciation are appalling. They often cannot do up coats or shoes and some 3 and 4 year olds are in nappies still.
I can only see two reasons for this: the need or desire for both parents to work and therefore have rare quality time to spend reading and teaching their kids, and that they are living in an ever more silent world where people are constantly on phones and gadgets. As a young mum pram pushing was a time spent chatting to my sons and pointing out things, now all you see are mums texting as they push.
Hi lynibis at a very young age i was taught to say please and thank you. Some of the kids to day do not say thank you. And when had a gift I had to send a thank you letter. Some kids to do not do that. Also my grandad read me a bed time story. Meal times we all sat around the table taking about are day. To days family are not like it. Kids come and go mum and dad do not know were there are. So are up to no good. Some kids are very rude. Smoking and drinking.. to days famliys are very diffran t to my up bring. I not saying all Family's are like it. Also mum and dad's let there chliren go wild in the supper market yelling and shouting. My grandad taught me to read and write do sums. So when I started school I know what to do. And I hate it when you are in a cafe and children are be bad and not a word from mum and dad to stop it. I know right and wrong. And I know not to be bad out. Chilren skips school and don't want to learn . And they pick it up a lot from there mum and dad. They see them doing it and copy. It. Some of to days familys are no more which is very sad. But like i said there are a few good family's out there. But not may. I am happy I grow up then and not now. 
Agree with you entirely Nicola. There is a great video on YouTube titled 'Children See, Children Do' well worth a watch.
Totally agree with you on this one. My nephew teaches 4 to 5 year olds and I was shocked how many were still not potty trained at that age and also how much time teachers waste dealing with them. Yes many parents work but surely if they choose to have children they should want what is best for them and the time they do spend with them be quality time full of interaction. Fortunately there are also some wonderful parents around with happy, bright and well adjusted children.
It is no secret that the kids i work with are in care and I despair as I mostly only have dealings with 'bad' parents. Some of the kids are so lovely. Inquisitive, friendly, cute and so sad that they have had such a bad start in life. Let's hope the good parents continue to outweigh the bad.
I talk to my son constantly about everything! I even try to make nappy change time fun for him! Children learn from the world around them. His dad and I constantly engage with him. He is only 6 weeks so still a while before he is taught the things you mention in your post, but his dad and I are both teachers and we want the best for him, so will do everything we can to make sure that his skills are developed and that he respects others. He will not be allowed to go wild in a supermarket or a cafe.
So happy to hear this, your son is very fortunate and you will soon reap the rewards when he begins communicating with you in the form of smiles, gurgles and body language. Tots are eager to learn and please and it is relatively easy to teach basic reading and writing before they start school, gives them a great head start.
Lynibis he smiles at us all the time and turns his head to follow our voices when we talk! It is important to start from a young age. We read and sing to him too. When he is old enough we will teach him how to read, write etc so he has a basic understanding before he goes to school. Plus it isn't just the teachers job to teach them, it is our job too.
I haven't logged in for ages so here's a late congratulations. The last time I was here the birth was due any time. 
I didn't know there were kids not potty trained by school age, surely this happens before you are two unles there is some issue that is deplorable
Both mine were potty trained and out of nappies by 18 months. The incentive back then was to not have to keep washing/boiling terry nappies. It is so quick and easy with disposables that parents are not inconvenienced any more so continue with the easy solution.
I couldn't tie my laces until I was 10. I had a speech impediment. I was left-handed and forced to be right-handed (and have ended up ambidextrous as a result). In my 20s I found out I'm dyslexic. I wonder if any of the kids have development delays/learning disabilities? I agree that many parents are more interested in their smartphones and don't interact enough.
I think that today it is easier to spot kids with the issues you describe as everyone is so aware of all the various things that can delay a child's development. But most of the kids I deal with are just victims of neglect and abuse. Parents who don't give a damn and makes me wonder why they ever have children in the first place.
It's really quite sad isn't it? A couple of years ago I saw this young mum with her face stuck in her phone whilst crossing the road whilst her little boy (only around 3 or 4) was around 5 or 6 feet behind.
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