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Not so much a question but would could really do with some advice. Sorry for the rant in advance.
Someone I used to be friends with has been making false allegations against me (also has no proof) and threatened to contact the police on me for a load of petty things. All this has happened since I've decided not to be friendly with her anymore. Can anyone please assure me I cant get arrested for something I havent done, all this started when she was running her mouth about me and i told her we are no longer friends due to her BS
If she has no proof of your supposed crimes then the police will dismiss her claims pretty much instantly.She sounds petty AF.
laraquinn I didnt even commit any crimes either. Shes also made allegations that her own mother has commited fraud, a friend of hers steals out of the tills at work, another friend is apparently committing benefits fraud, she just seems to chat rubbish about people when she feels like it. Only takes someone to believe her and take this up with the police which upsets me.
If you haven't done anything wrong, and she has no proof of you doing anything wrong as you say, then I don't see how you could be arrested. She's probably just angry that you've decided to end the friendship, but it sounds like you made the right decision.
angelik I havent done wrong thats what is upsetting me but her parents believe everything she says and have told her that i belong in a psychiatric ward as shes told them that im mentally unstable.
chelseaturpin She sounds like an awful person. Is it possible for you to cut all contact with her, her family, etc? It sounds like she is a troublemaker who makes up nonsense about a lot of people, but doesn't have anything to back it up, and you really don't need someone like that in your life. Whether she's doing it to be mean or just to get herself some attention, it's not your problem.
They are only slanderous allegations if said to another person or in the presence of another person or persons, furthermore if the allegations are true, no matter how trivial, it still isn't slander.
Mick82 I wasn't replying to the opening post - I was replying to the person who suggested a solicitor's letter alleging slander might help.
No competent solicitor would send such a letter unless there was very strong evidence. (the Law Society would take a very dim view of it if they did) Furthermore the police would have no interest in such things they would consider slander to be a civil matter, the police however could take an interest if any of the "petty things" (with strong evidence) were actual criminal offences.
davidstockport you must live in a different society to me people can't just go around slandering someone you have a right to defend your character and any solicitor that tells you otherwise is a joke
Mick82 The society I live in is governed by English law, unfortunately many English speaking people don't understand what slander actually means.
A solicitor would explain very carefully that unless you could provide strong evidence, witnesses etc. and there was absolutely no truth in what you had been accused of, he could not write such a letter. For some reason people think solicitors are the law a solicitor's letter carries no force in law. But if anyone felt they were being intimidated by a solicitor's letter it would probably be the solicitor on the losing side.
Remember I was replying to someone who suggested a solicitor's letter. A solicitor is NOT judge and jury.
davidstockport no one is suggesting a solicitor is judge and jury meaby you should read the posts a solicitor's letter Is to inform the other party to cease what you are allegeding or you will take legal action
Mick82 If you, or anyone else, want to spend your money on paying somebody to write letters you should be quite capable of writing yourself, (it helps if you get someone to check your spelling) it's OK with me. But if you don't just make sure you don't attempt to make any letter intimidating and ensure you don't allege anything that there is no strong evidence of.
davidstockport you and a few others on hear really need to stop thinking your opinion is fact and as for the spelling jibe I'm dyslexic and I apologise if my poor spelling is offensive to you.
Mick82 Advising someone to have their spelling checked by someone else before sending an important letter isn't a jibe, I am not offended by it but would not take any letter, job application etc. too seriously if I received one that contained errors. I am NOT dyslexic and would follow my own advice,
This is witchcraft to make up things what not real...police not goes into this...
I think fake friends are extremely common nowadays, people just use each other.
Hi chelseaturpin I am so sorry to hear you’re having a problem with your friend please don’t take it in your heart just try to ignore you’re know you didn’t don anything wrong that is most important if you’re honest no body can’t harm you trust yourself my advice just change your phone number don’t contact her problem solved. Police don’t interfere unless there’s violence or serious issues so no worries take care I hope a little advice will help dear 
She sounds like a very sad lonely woman. Just after attention I would ignore her and make sure any real friends who associate with her know the truth
From what you have said, it sounds to me like your friend may have a personality disorder, possibly alongside other mental health problems. As her behaviour is upsetting you, I suggest you try to gently extract yourself from the friendship, in the calmest and kindest way you can.
She sounds like a borderline personality disorder. All is fine until you upset them, then they will say anything about you. I have a close family member who is a narcistic personality disorder and they cause so many problems in the family. This person was accusing me of stealing all kinds of things around july time. Yeah. My advice is block this person on phone, social media, etc. you don't need these people in your life.
Well she seems like an awful person. But what I would say is try not to stress about it or waste any time even thinking about it. And deffo do not bring yourself down thinking about it too much. If you haven’t done anything you really have nothing to worry about. Sounds like you are better off without her friendship so try to just ignore her and keep pay no attention to the nonsense
Hi chelseaturpin. I had friend well i thought she was. Until last Christmas when we exchange gifts. Because mine was not so dear has the one she give me she wanted it back but still kep the one I give her. I said you dont give and take back. I turn around walk out with the gift. Later that day she phone me saying I was a horrible friend. I've not talk to her since. I've heard she getting up to all sort. Glade away from her. But sorry to hear you got trouble police want help you because you have no proof . What I would do is make a note book and write down every thing. If she texts you and says bad things to you keep the text and go the police then they will do something. But at the Mont it's your word angst hers. Which to me is all wrong. Let's hope for you she will get tied of it and move on. Hope it will settle down for you very soon. You do not need this with ever thing that is going on ❤❤❤❤
nicolajaynehend ive had a similar situation in the past with this *friend when it comes to exchanging gifts.
This exact thing happened to me when I was younger. Try and ignore them and if it gets worst build up evidence against them that they are lying about you
The Police are obliged to look into certain crimes so it really depends what you're being accused of. They need to have a valid reason to arrest someone though and it doesn't sound like she can provide that. I suspect they're getting numerous reports on all sorts with people frustrated as we know. She's clearly taking it out on you. Calmly tell her she could find herself in trouble with Police for wasting their time - not as a threat but to save both of you any hassle.
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