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Maybe a personal question but how do you get on with your parents? I talk to them, get on well but don't have the connection I would love to have with my son. Is it true that you try not to do to your child what your parents did to you?

GSM
16 days ago
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blacklabrador
blacklabrador16 days ago

I get on very well with my Mother, less so with my Father.

Sadly he's a bigot, who seems quite proud to be a bit racist, homophobic and Xenophobic.

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KazLou
KazLou16 days ago

i didnt get on well with both my parents, i was brought up by my nana and granddad,i tryed really hard with my mum and she didnt seem to want to know me,

i had no explanation or anything to why.

everytime i did try to speak to her she would call me names or hit me

i ended up going to councilling because of it all and was adviced to stay away for my own wellbeing,

i did and i didnt see or speak to her for 7 months.

then i got a phone call to say she had died and i was her next of kin been the eldest,

and i was the one who did everything for her funeral and payed the cost no family would help, my nana and grandad would of but my nan past a few years earlier so my grandad is on his own and couldnt afford to, i live with the guilt every day that we did not see or speak, my dad is still alive but we only see each other about twice a year, i have no idea why my parents couldnt get on with me but could my brothers

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nicolajaynehend
nicolajaynehend16 days ago

I had a very good bound with my mum and dad. My mum got cancer and i look after for 2 years until she passed away. Which is coming up to 14 years now. Then my dad got ill and I looked after him for 18 months its coming up to 2 years now. Miss them every day wish they wear still with me. So now I am on my own. I had a sister but she passed away when she was 6 years old and we had strong bound. I have no brothers. Just me and my pets. ๐Ÿ˜

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GSM
GSM
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16 days ago

nicolajaynehend sorry for that. It has to be very hard but positive to have good memories from them

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sarahgreen15
sarahgreen1516 days ago

I am not a family orientated person, I live in Scotland and my parents live in Northern Ireland, so we see each other maybe once - twice a year.. I've lived in Scotland for 5 years - my dad has visited me (when already over here) once in that time - my mum makes far more effort and has been at least once a year to visit.. i donโ€™t like who my dad is as a person, I wouldnt choose to have him in my life, but my mum is a lovely woman.

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BlueOrchid
BlueOrchid15 days ago

I get on with them fine now. It was different when I was teenager. They had their own issues to deal with... My dad is more distant and with mum its usually me making effort... my childhood wasnt the best and I'm trying my best not to do the same to my son. Hes only 7 and we are close and get on very well. I don't hide stuff from him and try to explain so he could understand, I never shout at him, we talk a lot and I give him lots of love what i was lacking myself when growing up..

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SonsOfPitches
SonsOfPitches15 days ago

Yeah get along fine here. Am much closer to my dad then my mum but there isn't much difference. Don't get to see them often but we are constantly on our family group WhatsApp chat

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MrsCraig
MrsCraig15 days ago

I get on well with both parents. I always have. Don't get me wrong we have had a few arguments over the years, but we get on great. My parents were wonderful when growing up and I had a brilliant childhood.

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jigsawx3x
jigsawx3x14 days ago

I'm the other way my parents are fab we get on really well I have even moved back home to care for them both as my dad is bedbound and my mum has copd love being home

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NicoleBradburn
NicoleBradburn14 days ago

My late dad & late grandmother brought me up for personal reasons but my late dad & mum where not married.

After knowing what happened between my parents, I was bit angry as teenager towards my mum, specially after she never bothered after the courtcase & coming out of the blue from back home, when I was 12 didn't help...

Many lies so obvious, that it was ridiculous & it made me more distant & by time I was 16, I was even more angry & really hurt.

We are still very distant....Right now, I just leave things as it is,after being the only one making the effort for a good while.

I just respect her as my mum but there is no relationship there.

With my late dad I was daddy's girl, we where very very close.

My late grandmother was more of a mother figure.

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ukheather
ukheather13 days ago

Mine are all dead, but my after my mum kicked me out as a kid we strayed from each other as she didn't see the issue with it and pushed me out of the way for a married man.

I still spoke to her sometimes on the phone over the years after so didn't ignore her totally.

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Glitterandgold
Glitterandgold13 days ago

I had a good relationship with both my mum & dad. I always felt loved & supported. I miss them terribly. I now have a good relationship with both my sons, both will come to me for advice. I hope they always feel as loved & supported as I did.

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joannecroston
joannecroston13 days ago

I have an amazing relationship woth my parents they arevery involved with mine and my childrens lives and i jad a very very happy and loving upbringing. I too am very close to all my 3 children. I moved out at the age of 22 with the full support of my parents who have been there through thick and thin. Now my ex husband was not that close to his parents they separated when he was around 12 due to his dads affairs and violence. I left my husband because he became controlling abusive and violent. He would pin me up against walls by my neck, push me down onto the sofa or floor and sit over me screaming in my face. He punched me a few times and once kicked me so hard in the leg i collapsed to the floor. He basocally became his father and did to me what his dad did to his mother. He used to cry about it and tell me stories of waking up on Christmas day and the house was smashed up or he would scream at his dad to stop and one day when i said the way you treat me means you are putting your kids through exactly wjat you went throigh and was left deeply traumatised by as a child but in his head he was justified in wjat he was doing, i always "pushed his buttons" or "wanted him to be jealous" "like playing the victim" etc etc so my experience was that history repeated itself but i know people who jad awful childhoods and have turned into amazing parents so i dont think theres a hard and fast rule

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