Gold Digger
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Watched first episode of Gold Digger last night and was struck by the similarities in the mother/adult kids scenarios and my own.
Although I suspect the mum's new bf is up to no good I also wonder at adult kids who become so childlike and disagreeable when their mother has a new relationship.
I have totally turned my back on the prospect of any relationship (even with a man my own age) because I can't bear the strife it causes. I am resigned to a life alone as I am not prepared to lose my sons, and thereby my grandkids, should the relationship then peter out and I am left totally alone.
I don't hear of men getting the same grief when they get a new girlfriend.
Oh dear I feel for you. Have a chat with you son and involve him to help you on a dating site. Even if you’ve been on those sites in the past pretend your helpless and seek his advice. It might make him understand your loneliness and he MIGHT encourage you to find someone to share your life with.
I know some people have found a relationship online but for every successful one I reckon there are hundreds that are con artists, gold diggers, or after something not genuine. Sadly, I have been there, done that and got the t-shirt. Even older men are often looking for younger models and I doubt I would appeal to any age group now lol.
I seemed to attract (past tense) the wrong uns and am resigned to being alone now. When I married full of hopes and dreams, I thought it would be forever and that we would grow old with our family around us, but he was a womanising abuser so the dream became a nightmare.
Today no one seems to aspire to life long partnerships but I can say that experience has taught me a life of partner after partner does not being happiness.
You are definitely not alone, and this is a problem that is quite common in modern times - ironic that this happens in over populated societies most of all. Some of the guys I know are suspicious of the women who latch themselves onto them, which gets worse as they get older. I’d say in general just get yourself out there, just meet new people and see where it leads. There’s always opportunities to form new friendships
My thread is more about sons reactions to mothers in relationships. I am not bothered about meeting anyone now, far too late for me. My work does not allow me to take part in clubs etc because I can be working any time between 9am and 8pm and no two days are the same so can't commit to anything on a regular basis. Don't worry I will eventually retire and catch up!
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