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Is it okay to ask for cash instead of gifts for your kids' birthdays or Christmas? 🎁💷 A new study shows more parents prefer money, but is it crossing a line to ask?

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SamGoodship
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thepaxman

I think it all depends on age, if they’re difficult to buy for then cash unless they’ve asked for something specific

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lilyflower

I don't mind giving cash if they are either putting it in a savings account for the child or to buy a specific item asked for. I don't like giving cash if the parents are using it to cover what they have overspent on 'Santa'. We've already had one family member ask for their Christmas cash as they are a 'bit short'. The reply was sorry we've had to make cut backs and there isn't any this year as your over 18.

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TheChimp

Hi lilyflower, how have you been?

An over 18 asking for Xmas cash? Did they take it well when you said that they weren't having any?

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lilyflower

TheChimp Hello 🙂 I'm ok - I think but not sure about a FB friend who has just vanished!

She is actually 23 and now in labour with second child but has always tried to tap her Granda for cash - not really sure how she's taken it other than a message to say 'it's ok I'm sorted' which to me indicated it wasn't needed for Christmas more likely the weekends take-away.

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TheChimp

lilyflower Ah, I deleted my FB account. I should have told everyone beforehand.

My boy used to ask me for money into his 30s which I found out he was spending on drugs.

His mother used to ask for cash for him for birthdays and Xmas, which I refused to do because she'd spend it on herself.

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lilyflower

TheChimp You/I need to another form of communication, telepathy and pigeons don't work. Step-son was the same thankfully he's stopped asking.

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TheChimp

lilyflower I'll be in touch on FB via MrsChimp 🙂

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martinlufc5637

It's better to give cash, then they choose what to do with it, my youngest is 10 year old she's grown out of dolls ect.. when family have ask what to get her for Christmas, I've just said money or a gift card

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TheChimp

We used to get a list from our nieces for Xmas/birthdays, but we started giving them cash a couple of years ago so they had a bit more responsibility and could do what they wanted. I don't think I'd be happy if the parents had asked us to do it.

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jms19

Some people would be put out by being asked to give cash but to me it makes perfect sense.

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janphoenix51

I just give money for Christmas, Birthdays & Easter, my youngest Nephew is 16 now, my Great Nieces & Great Nephews are between 3 & 14, they all get enough so it's between them & their parents if they bank or spend it...

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RegularComper91

I think it all depends on the age and personal preference. I am in my early 30s and my parents give me cash for my birthday but presents for Christmas.

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Pjran

An ex friend used the cash she had received for her childs birthday towards a coat for herself!

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eyeballkerry

I don’t think you should ask for money but if it is given I do not see a problem as long as it goes to the child. Best to put it straight into their bank account, the child’s bank that is!

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MrsCraig

If someone asks me what my child would like I will tell them what he is into at that time but will also say that they don't need to get him anything. I wouldn't ask for money though. I don't have a problem with anyone giving him money or a gift card, as he did get some for his birthday recently. I would maybe say to family to buy him a gift card for somewhere so he could pick something if they asked but I wouldn't ask for money.

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HEDGEHOGS

I quite like to give cash for gifts when kids are a bit older and then they can go out and buy what they want.

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PayItForward

I personally wouldn’t ask. I don’t expect people to buy gifts. It’s nice to have them at the party

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geoffdavis72

Cash is King. Very true saying..... We should never go fully plastic card/ electronic payments in my opinion. Yes I'm old school. In the future peoples electronic payments could be controlled daily spending limits etc cash payments can't be controlled. I don't touch shops and vendors that do not accept cash and are card payment only.

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DanielleMcK1992

I prefer giving cash because its easier but then I often find I'm giving more than I would spend on a present xx

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