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If you have a older child at home do you take Lodge off them for stuff towards food electricity etc

I was brought up to pay my way and contribute. But this topic seems to have mixed reviews, what's your thoughts

Ann1984
2 months ago
What do you think of this?
Glitterandgold
Glitterandgold2 months ago

Yes! I was brought up the same way myself. My eldest son pays us board. Not alot but he doesn't earn alot. My youngest doesn't yet as hes still in education but once working he will be expected to do same.

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Janhrrs
Janhrrs2 months ago

Yes, I really believe they should. Whether the parents need it or not doesn't matter. It is about them learning to budget and to be able to transition into the real world easier. That's my opinion but I do realise a lot of people disagree with this view now (including 2 out of my 3 children who were appalled that I expected the to pay their way, read that as pay a token gesture 😂)

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chelseaturpin
chelseaturpin2 months ago

My mum took board from the week after i turned 18 whether or not i had a job. I didn't pay loads but it went towards my food, electric and gas i used. I think parents should be taking board off children its easier than kicking them out once they've started working they'll soon realise that it will work out cheaper to stay at home with parents and pay board. It will be experience for when they move out into their own homes and be used to having to pay for things.

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jigsawx3x
jigsawx3x2 months ago

Yes I do but all depends on there income and yours aswell my son is disabled and get pip I only get carars so need to pay bills he pays the Internet and a little for food every month it also helps me out

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KirsteyJames
KirsteyJames2 months ago

When i finished school and started getting my own money my mother used to charge me £20 a week. At the time i thought she was being mean but as soon as i moved out and started paying all the bills, buying food and everything you dont think of - soap, toothpaste, shampoo & conditioner, cleaning products etc i soon realised that £20 a week for everything was a bargain 🙊 i wish that was my only outgoings now 🤣

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Caz2
Caz22 months ago

My youngest doesnt he 16& just at college,but now elder ones gone to uni,but lives at home,hes given a bit of a lump sum from his student finance towards his keep& will do so again he said when he gets it for next term.its probably not as much as if he was working but i appreciate it and he chauffeurs me to shops& appts when i need it on his days off.

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tumblespots
tumblespots2 months ago

The moment I started working full time (age 16) I paid a third of my pay for 'keep' and never felt cheated. I paid out far more when I bought my first home. I think it is a good thing and helps teach the value of money and bills. You will never make it out there on your own if you don't know the value of things. 🐞

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Pjran
Pjran2 months ago

I always paid housekeeping once I had a job still living with my parents, my mother needed it as my father was old school and gave her minimum housekeeping. However, I didn’t take it from my children I just thought once they leave home the reality of life will hit them. In fact we’ve also contributed on their first homes and helped buying other bits for their home. They don’t take it for granted and have never asked. We’re fortunate to be able to help but I know not everyone is in that position.

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TiaTia
TiaTia2 months ago

I only have one son and when he started to work at 18 I took keep off him, I put this aside in a separate bank account and when he purchased his first property at 24 I gave the money back to him. He never knew what I had planned but was so appreciative.

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ClaireF1978
ClaireF19782 months ago

I think if they're working then fine

as long as its well below the going rate. If unemployed or in education, I wouldn't as I wouldn't want them getting into debt to give me money.

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Faye1
Faye12 months ago

My mum always made us pay when we started work after college. I think it’s a good idea it learns children to budget and helps them understand the importance of bills when they leave home as well. When my children leave education I will be doing the same with them.

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Ceebers
Ceebers
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2 months ago

Yes. My brother certainly had to pay when he started working. I paid for myself to go to university, and then I rented a place to live when I finished so I never paid anything to my parents.

Some older children I know get away with so much in my opinion and often parents indulge them. I think it is right that if young adults are working they contribute. to the household. Why shouldn't they???

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