Are You One of Life's Givers or Takers?
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I prefer to give and I don't mind that others may not be quite as generous but I do hate it when people take the proverbial. I am a bit of an earth mother and no one comes to my home but they don't get offered food and/or drink and some have had several lunches, meals and the odd breakfast when working together but has never even treated me to a cuppa when we have been out working. Not only that, they actually eat crisps, sweets, snacks etc without offering and I really can't get my head around it. Anyone else have 'friends' or colleagues like this?
My three best friends and I are all feeders - get together for coffee and there is enough homemade cake and biscuits for the whole road!
Employee's or my children as I refer to them ... the number of times I have given my lunch to one of them as 'their wife hasn't packed their food', they drink my coffee (leaving the wet spoon in the jar 
,) use the last of my milk 
and never offer to make me one when boiling the kettle.
I find it really difficult to give things away. It sounds awful as I'm a freebie hunter who doesn't give 
It's not because I'm being inconsiderate, it's just because of the way I grew up. I grew up almost never getting anything. I had food and a roof over my head so I'm thankful for that. I think I struggle to give things away, because for so long I had very little. Although when it comes to my kids, they get everything, all year round, no expenses spared. I just hope they grow up to be grateful for it because so many people have very little. I think that's probably why other's can't give though, so try not to take it too personally.
Ah Tash that is sad but we are all a product of our childhood and society is divided in far more ways than give and take. I was thinking more of giving of yourself not things as such. I will give until it hurts to those in need but I feel put upon when those who are no worse of than me continually take and will sit and eat a packet of sweets in front of you and not even offer. I was brought up to share and when this particular person comes to my house between jobs it is usually a meal time and I just can't sit and eat in front of someone without offering. (My place is nearer between jobs). But we decided to share a shop bought sandwich one day and it was the cheapest so I thought she might pay or go halves, no way she stood back while I paid and then happily munched away. I try not to let it bother me, no one likes an indian giver, but it is hard when quite a lot of people are like it and yet me, my kids and grandkids are so generous so don't understand mean people. Still it takes all sorts to make a world. You sound lovely and I bet you wouldn't constantly take from someone without standing your turn. X
lynnibis I don't know, I don't mind doing favours for people or buying them lunch, but actually sharing or giving away something that's mine, that's hard I have to buy people things that are specifically for them if I have guests round.
I am also a feeder! No one comes to my house and leaves hungry! It is definitely something I get from my mum as she is also a feeder. If I am able to help others then I will, whether it is with my time or resources. My friends are also givers and will help whenever they can.
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