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Have you ever been asked to pay to attend a wedding? Would you pay? This is on top of buying a gift?
No I wouldn't pay at all i thought it was rude my sister was asked to be maid of honor and was told she will have to pay 250 for the dress the bride wanted
Never heard of this before but no I wouldn't. I think crowdfunding and such like is getting out of hand.
That really doesn’t seem right to pay but they’ve got ba//s asking. Wedding are just too expensive these days and with every business charging so much people should just get married in the registrar office.
The average total cost of a wedding in 2019 was £31,974.
I've never been asked to pay and, as you mentioned, that would be on top of a gift. There are so many other costs, that being part of the wedding party incur, so it seems beyond rude to ask. Then again.....there are a lot of Bridezillas about.
I have never been asked to pay, but it all depends on the financial position of the couple, do they want to share it with their friends but can't afford to, so are they asking close friends of they wouldn't mind paying for your own meal ? In that case I would pay. But if they just wanted a flash wedding I wouldn't pay
Never have been but can understand it . Why on earth do couples blow what amounts to a deposit on a house for a "posh wedding " ? Prices driven by Wedding planners 
. I suppose if your "friends" are that shallow ... why not charge them for the privilege of attending their "face book wedding " 
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I haven't been asked to pay to attend a wedding, but if I was I wouldn't pay, I think that's a bit rude.
If asked to chip in for a pal I'd gladly do it (however much I disapprove of the cost of weddings ). But as an "entrance fee " to attend the wedding - No way !
Golfforall If a good friend was struggling to pay for the essentials for their wedding, I would probably help a bit if I could. But asking everyone to pay just to attend is too cheeky!
I was asked many years ago to be the best man at the wedding ,Just under a couple of months before the wedding I was told I would have to pay for the hire of my suit which left me a bit miffed but I paid for it .Just 1 flaw on the day of the wedding the bride left the groom at the alter.
In my culture, we tend to gift money at weddings, so I guess it’s a similar thing (to help out with the costs)
We are being asked to give a gift of money and also pay to go so two separate payments as such
eyeballkerry I guess it depends on how much they’re asking for, and who they are. I gave £200 at the last wedding I attended - that covered the lot
Probably not, I'd find an excuse to get out of attending. Although, it's not that much different if the couple want to get married abroad. They expect you to cover flights, accommodation and other expenses. Fine for family and very close friends. Otherwise, no 
No way would I pay ! they'd have to pay me most of the time 
depending who it was of course 
I’d pay not to go to a wedding !!!
Who’s asked to pay then ? I think people spend way too much on weddings. Yet again it’s like to keep up with what others do.
Get married have a wedding that you can afford. If you for money to waste then fair play.
The money they spend is keeping others in a job.
No, I wouldn't pay to attend. The costs of attending in the first place can be huge. You have to buy new outfits, a decent present and probably pay to stay somewhere. In fact, thinking about it I'd rather not be asked to a wedding at all.
This is another issue the venue is miles away and we would probably have to stay overnight. They have offered free camping if you bring your own tent and sent a list of nearby hotels, thoughtful lol. I already have an outfit so there’s a saving !
Never I've been asked for money towards honeymoon as gift but that's it. I would prefer to keep costs down by not going
These days most couples already live together so buying gifts is risky as you may duplicate. Even if they don't live together they risk not getting things they really need but a load of stuff they don't need.
I don't see anything wrong in asking for money in lieu of gifts and if they choose to use it to offset the wedding costs that is fine by me.
A couple I know had a sort of post box discreetly in a corner where you could post money and no one would know whether you gave £5 or £500!
I don’t mind giving money into a box as their ‘ present ‘ but asking for more towards the wedding I do not agree with. Like others have commented.
eyeballkerry yes that is very cheeky and I would rather not attend if I was blatantly asked to pay too many costs towards my own attendance.
When I got married it was register office, back to aunt's for reception, everyone brought a plate of food, record player for music and we had a great time. We paid for booze but even so, many 'brought a bottle'.
I think it is becoming more common for guests to be asked to pay to attend a wedding. I have heard of several cases. I think that some couples want a big wedding but don’t necessarily have the funds to pay for it! I would be really uncomfortable if asked to such a wedding as I wouldn’t want to appear mean, but would not want to pay for the privilege on principle!
I certainly wouldn’t want to be staying in a tent eyeballkerry in my wedding finery!
It is unnecessary to spend huge amounts on a wedding. I wouldn’t mind betting that there is an inverse correlation between amount spent and the time the marriage lasts.
I've never been asked to pay to attend a wedding. My mother in law briefly mentioned that she would need to charge people for their meal as she couldn't afford to pay for everyone she wanted there. We told her that she couldn't ask people to pay. We told her she either needed to reduce her guest list to an amount she could afford or she needed to compromise somewhere else. When her mother heard she was charging people she was horrified and she paid for the food.
When we got married we had the wedding we could afford and had a small guest list. I don't mind giving a cash gift, that way the couple can use it for what they need to but to be asked to pay on top of that, plus the other costs, I would not be happy and I would not go.
no sorry I wouldn't, Who would you be paying ? the venue or the Bride n Groom .
I wouldn't, I'd tell them to shove it! Nowadays people seem to try to out-do other people with their weddings and it ends up being a competition. Part of the reason i dont want to get married is its just soooo expensive!
If they can’t afford a wedding they should just have a small one instead of asking people to pay for it
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