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Ive recently started talking to one of my early friends that I lost contact with over time and heard that when her kids are in trouble they get their phones taken.

I havent ever thought about doing this nor has my parents ever took my phone as a punishment since I was well into university before I had my own actual phone.

And im not sire if this is a suitable punishment and if it is to what extent since kids always manage to get their hands on some kind of device anyway

ladybugncatnoir
a month ago
What do you think of this?
Lynibis
Lynibisa month ago

Of course it is a suitable punishment. Kids are allowed to get away with far too much these days because too many weak willed parents don't care to instill discipline or are actually scared of their children turning on them. A punishment doesn't work unless it deprives them of something they love or enjoy.

When will parents realise that not setting boundaries and rules sets their kids up for an undisciplined and unhappy life. They will have a rude awakening as they enter adulthood.

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tumblespots
tumblespotsa month ago

I agree wholeheartedly with you Lynibis and we used to enforce the 'lack of phone' as a punishment rule. We were also fortune enough to agree when punishment was and wasn't required. I find that these days the parents are more often battling with, or against, each other rather than trying to raise well rounded children.

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Lynibis
Lynibisa month ago

tumblespots a lot of people mistakenly think of discipline, punishment and boundaries as abusive terms. They are merely tools to guide children into a decent way of living where being a member of society entails following it's rules. Not like mindless sheep but so we can live in safety and security and with a caring attitude to others rather than being centred on self. My boys were raised with lots of communication between us and I always went into deep explanations as to why they should or shouldn't do something. There is no such thing as a perfect human but they are now confident alpha males who are good decent men who contribute to society rather than take from it. Discipline does not mean producing cowed kids who lack confidence but rather well rounded adults who are then capable of self discipline.

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tumblespots
tumblespotsa month ago

Lynibis Absolutely, I couldn't put it better myself 👍

I have always believed that children thrived when they knew the boundaries.

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ladybugncatnoir
ladybugncatnoir
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a month ago

Lynibis I 100% agree with you on parenting being too lenient these days and I do take electonics away but my fear is if they happen to be out and theyre unable to contact me or im unable to contact them during an emergency.

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Lynibis
Lynibisa month ago

ladybugncatnoir I think it is sensible for them to have phones when out but if they have been naughty enough for punishment they probably shouldn't be out anyway, grounding is a good way of instilling discipline.

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BORDERJOE
BORDERJOEa month ago

Hey Lynibis ... well said! At the moment I am battling to get a £40 repayment from a nephew-too used to mum and dad bailing him out and letting him off...and he's now 30. He seems to think that cos we are in our 60s then we're bound to pay for him at family meals etc...I am dumbfounded that he seems to have no shame. .... how is he going to get on if he takes no responsibility for himself and his actions!?

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Lynibis
Lynibisa month ago

BORDERJOE It's awful when grown adults expect to keep child status with older relatives. Your nephew sounds like he needs a good talking to....send him my way lol.

Off subject I know but I stopped giving Christmas and birthday money to my brother's 3 girls because I never got a word of thanks via text, phone, letter or in person. Bruv wasn't happy but he knew why and did nothing about it. I stop giving when kids are 18 anyway otherwise birthday and Xmas list would just keep getting bigger.

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BORDERJOE
BORDERJOEa month ago

Lynibis well I'm planning on ringing today cos I can be quite stubborn .... (I bet he doesn't answer is mobile)... and exactly the same again as you .... I stopped the Xmas and birthday gifts for the same reason ..... never any thanks or mention of them-and my brother was also not happy but nothing changed!

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Ann1984
Ann1984a month ago

Of course take phone away another thing you can do is set time limits there is a brilliant app call ourpact which gives you control of there phone though yours. We one year removed our son ps from room and tv because done something wrong for 3 months never got into trouble again. Don’t be scared of your kids your the boss

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Leannexxx
Leannexxxa month ago

Haha her kids would hate being at my house my daughter gets every thing taken of her phone, tablet, laptop only had to do it once and it worked she's stopped giving me cheek

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ladybugncatnoir
ladybugncatnoir
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a month ago

Leannexxx dont worry 😅i do keep them disciplined but normally I make them do more chores or volunteering etc

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beccatavender
beccatavendera month ago

I think it's a good idea taking them away when they are at home, but I wouldn't feel comfortable if they were going out, as I think they need to be contactable, even if they don't pick up for you know they can ring you if needed.

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ladybugncatnoir
ladybugncatnoir
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a month ago

beccatavender Yes! That was what i was wondering too because I wouldnt be able to stop stressing if they are out or if I cant contact them (vice versa)

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Imnotcheap
Imnotcheapa month ago

I suppose if it is a suitable punishment depends on the crime. It's my OH go to punishment for our eldest but overused so I'm not sure if its always appropriate

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ladybugncatnoir
ladybugncatnoir
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a month ago

Imnotcheap I remember I had taken my youngests tablet one day and later found out the oldest was 'renting' his out to him 😂

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Imnotcheap
Imnotcheapa month ago

ladybugncatnoir 🤣

all my kids have a tablet but only my eldest has a phone

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Lynibis
Lynibisa month ago

Just a little story as proof of what works.

My female driver and I recently started a school run for a semi-deaf child of 11 who was often being suspended from school as he was naughty and disruptive, he was in care and living with his guardian.

He had been given a place at an independent school 2 days a week and it was nearly an hour's drive each way so I took to bringing my tablet along for him to watch Netflix (child friendly) but on the proviso that his behaviour was good.

At the end of the second day a staff member brought him to the car and they were having some sort of dispute in which he was very rude to her and called her names. I called out to him 'hey, what have I told you about being rude to people?' He got in the car and asked for the tablet which I refused, so he shrugged and I asked if he knew why. 'Yeh, I have been naughty'.

He totally accepted it and behaved all the way home so when we arrived I smiled and told him he could have the tablet the next time.

That child was never rude to either of us, chatted happily and opened up about hating school etc. I took to giving him mini talks about respecting others if you want respect, education is very important if you want any quality of life etc. I was quite sad when we broke for summer hols and not sure if we will see him again but the downloads I put on the tablet were 'Horrible Histories' as I felt that maybe some of the facts would stick even while he was enjoying the humour. He was a loveable rogue but my heart is heavy when I think of the parents who were not up to the task and he ended up in care.

That is why I have such strong opinions about raising children and keeping them on the right track, which can only be done with the strength to show love AND discipline.

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