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Why This Grandma Refuses to Buy Her Grandchildren Birthday Gifts

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So this grandmother refuses to buy her grandchildren birthday gifts as she says they already receive enough

She doesn't want to waste money on toys etc that they will use for a while then just throw away

It all seems a bit mean until you hear what she is doing instead

She says the money she saves on the gifts she is putting away weekly in a savings account for when they get older

They do get christmas presents though

So the question is do you think she is doing the right thing, or should she buy them birthday presents ?

nypost.com/2024/09/18/lifestyle/grandma-slammed-for-refusing-to-buy-grandkids-gifts-reveals-why/

telmel
2 weeks ago
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DeBunny

I think a lot of people buy people gifts because they feel they have to. Good on her for doing what she is doing though, that is a phenomenal amount to put aside for them and they are very lucky. I'm sure her grandchildren still get treated by her at times anyway.

The only one thing I will say having lost friends at a young age and I mean one as a 5 year old. Life isn't guaranteed, I do agree with what she is doing but also as morbid as it sounds, anything can happen in life, so if she wanted to get them something suddenly for a birthday, she should.

Teaching them the skills and even teaching them the specific skills of how to save money, might be more beneficial to them for future and time... quality bonding time with a person, especially a child can be the best times and most cherished 'gift' you could ever give them.

Presents shouldn't be mandatory, whoever you are.

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telmel

DeBunny Well thought out B

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Jerseydrew

That's a really nice idea. I like that. People do just buy for the sake of it rather then getting something meaningful

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telmel

Jerseydrew very true J

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Mango4

Whilst I understand her logic of putting the money into a savings account, I don;t think young children would and will just feel a bit left out that Grandma hasn't bought them a present. She could simply buy them a smaller gift and still put some money into savings also .

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telmel

Mango4 Yes, the parents would appreciate more than the child who would just see it as grandma bought me nothing , even if the parents explained why

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Jerseydrew

telmel there's that but if it's done from day one the child doesn't know any different

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telmel

Jerseydrew True J , as long as they don't realise their friends might be getting gifts from theirs and they are the only one not

But i doubt they go into that much detail and it is for their benefit in the long run

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lilyflower

A good idea but I'd change it around so that they got a small Birthday present plus a small amount of cash and no Christmas present just cash into savings account or a token Christmas present if she felt the need. After all a Birthday is your day and Christmas is someone else's Birthday. The grandkids in our family get a token Birthday and Christmas plus cash for saving but we now their Dad keeps it to cover all the outrages/unneeded things he bought.

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telmel

lilyflower That might work out better L

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Leannexxx

I think it's a good idea to be honest and she's right kids get loads of presents

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telmel

Leannexxx Some too many sometimes L

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Pjran

It’s not just children who get given unnecessary presents. I have a cupboard full of gifts I won’t use and donate as raffle prizes.

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telmel

Pjran Very thoughtful P

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jane100

I don't buy any birthday or Christmas presents my family is enormous and multiplying! we have party's where I always help with cooking etc but no cards or presents just a WhatsApp message

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telmel

jane100 I used to but as with you having a large family it would be too much, and you cannot buy some and not others

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TiaTia

Personally we prefer to put money into premium bonds and just buy a small token gift for the children.

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telmel

TiaTia Another good idea T

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Consumer

Great - putting money away instead of spending on material things. Christmas presents are more than enough 😃

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possy

Yes absolutely. This is a great idea. If my son gets money for his birthday, he is allowed to spend a little bit of it and the rest goes in the bank

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