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I miss not wearing high heels. I feel my outfits just don’t look elegant wearing flat shoes. I have pointed toe smart flat shoes, loads of ballerina, umpteen Birkenstocks.

I live in Birkenstocks but they’re not attractive to wear on a formal occasion.

What do you miss from your 20s and 30s?

Pjran
a week ago
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martinlufc5637

I bought a tracksuit recently, after putting it on I didn't feel comfortable in it, I felt I was too old for it and looked silly

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Pjran

martinlufc5637 I bet it was comfortable though. Keep it for wearing around the home.

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martinlufc5637

Pjran my wife said it's looks fine, I just didn't feel right in it, first time I've bought one in years, I use to always wear them in my 20's 30's

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Pjran

martinlufc5637 if your wife says it’s fine that should give you confidence. Always listen to your wife.

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Lynibis

Although I have nothing to impair my mobility as such, I do miss not being nimble anymore. I can no longer run up the stairs, change the duvet without working up a sweat (and taking twice as long), and even muscle strength has declined so I cannot lift things I used to be able to move and lift.

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Pjran

Lynibis it’s tough accepting that we can no longer do things. I gave up changing the beds, I’ve delegated that job.

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Lynibis

Pjran Lucky you lol, I live alone! There is so much I can no longer do but even with a partner (same age) I would be able to as 4 arms are better than 2.🐙

I cleaned out the conservatory gutters up a ladder last weekend but I must admit I kept telling myself I would have to pay someone to do them in future.

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Jackscot

I bought some summer vest for a change but look very old in them

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Pjran

Jackscot the trouble with vests on me the arm holes are too large and show my bra. Not a good look on an elderly woman 😂

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Jackscot

Pjran, if you are comfortable in a vest, were them regards whot anyone says

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MrsCraig

I hated wearing high heels. I loved how the shoes themselves looked but hating wearing them. They killed my feet. I definitely don't miss high heels, love my flat shoes.

I can't think of anything I miss from my younger years. Apart from not paying the bills.

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Leannexxx

I've never been able to wear high heels only because I was too tall so I look like a lamppost 🤣 honestly I kinda miss the freedom of doing what I want and I didn't have kids to worry about I wouldn't change it at all but I do miss it sometimes

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TiaTia

I feel that i'm very casusal these days and go more for comfort, I dread it when someone suggests going out for a meal lol as I don't really have anything nice to dress up in, well I do but I don't feel good in clothes anymore or confident with my body, I was always a size 10/12 in my younger days but more a size 14/16 these days and that reflects how I feel about myself.

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Pjran

TiaTia I would love to be a size 14 again. I’ve kept lots of my classic style clothes hoping to wear them if I ever become slimmer.

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eyeballkerry

I completely understand you with shoes. I can’t where high heels anymore but just having a slight heel does make you feel more elegant. I wear mainly fit flops now and I huge array of styles and colours. Expensive but worth it.

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Pinkspirit

I miss high heels, l now live in trainers, l miss underwired lacy bra's & matching knickers or G strings, l now wear plain T - Shirt bras and bigger knickers, l won't wear T - Shirts or Cami / Spaghetti string tops as l feel my upper arms are no longer toned, l won't wear shorts as the tops of my legs wobble when l walk... however all these things are my insecurities and l feel frumpy 🥺

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Pjran

Pinkspirit wow g string. I’ve never worn one even though I was given one in a secret Santa. I swapped it for some chocolates with another colleague 😂

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Pinkspirit

Pjran wow!, sorry that made me laugh 🤣🤣, l would definitely swap them for chocolate anytime now 😊🍫🍫

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Pjran

Pinkspirit I do like knickers not a bit of string between my cheeks. Think Bridget Jones 😂

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Pfs

My didgeridoo takes longer to wake up

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TheChimp

The music and not being able to drink until 5am

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janphoenix51

I've still got a fantastic memory for just turned 59, been a size 14 for years, I don't have bingo wings at all, taut legs BUT full of Varicose Veins & not toned tummy, not got a lot of strength in my hands..

I am nimble on my feet, I can run fast over short distances weave in & out of crowd & young for my age..

I have NEVER missed high heels, only prefering to wear kitten heels, skechers, trainers or boots ..

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Pjran

janphoenix51 wow you’re not aging, lucky you. My eye sight was almost perfect until my fifties but it’s deteriorating so need specs now. I love my glasses though and have so many pairs different styles and colours.

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janphoenix51

Pjran... Image

I danced, jogged & walked around my small kitchen for over an hour while listening to Pink, finished just after 1am...

I get by on 4 hrs sleep & my daughter jokes that I'm a Vampire!!

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janphoenix51

Pjran ...An old friend Sue video called me out of the blue on Monday night after I had sent her birthday greetings & then sent her my birthday meal photos..

We used to work together 30 years ago & I haven't seen her in years..

I'm exactly 2 weeks older than Sue who's birthday fell on June 7th, she didn't believe that I was that old telling me

You never age Jan!

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Pjran

janphoenix51 I call it insomnia. You’ll have to teach your daughter all these life skills, they’re working for you.

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janphoenix51

Pjran .....Born on Queen Victoria's birthday exactly 3 weeks ago today..

The Victorians slept in 2 stages, waking up & doing chores then going to sleep again, I've been doing that for years!

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MelissaLee1

Energy,Enthusiasm and mobility.Never liked high heels or any other kind of shoes for that matter.If I had my way I'd go barefooting everywhere lol.

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Pjran

MelissaLee1 I’ve never been able to walk barefooted except on a sandy beach or grass.

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MelissaLee1

Pjran It;s getting harder but I persist lol.If I were a Native American I would be a member of the Blackfoot tribe lol.

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suevernon1968

Being able to walk properly, not caring how i looked, confidence, independence, having my money to myself and no mortgage, my mum, not being told how everything is bad for me.

But on a massive plus side are that i have gorgeous children and grandchildren now.

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Pjran

suevernon1968 you’re blessed with your grandchildren, they bring so much joy.

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suevernon1968

Pjran definitely !

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EmmaWright762

I miss my health, my energy and having more choices in life. I miss being able to dance the most as I used to dance at County level and had some fantastic dance partners over the years although I used to compete solo. They called the category Disco but some of the moves were closer to gymnastics.

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Pjran

EmmaWright762 wow you must have been a wonderful dancer. At least you have marvellous memories.

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EmmaWright762

Pjran My partner used to do aerial splits whilst l did a cartwheel straight down into splits - great fun! 😁

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SueWard

I used to love running and walking but at the moment I have ganglions on both ankles which means I can't fit into my trainers.I can walk in sandals but the straps have to be in the right position.I think the ganglions are age related.

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Pjran

SueWard that sounds uncomfortable. At the moment I’m only wearing a variety of Birkenstocks because they’re the only shoe I can get on.

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LL81

I would only wear high heels especially being petite.. these days it’s flatform trainers and slippers . Also miss being wrinkle free, and my young athletic body especially my peachy bottom.

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Pjran

LL81 you’re obviously slim. I have enough fat going through me to stop the wrinkles 😂

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jms19

I’m in my 30s but i guess i miss the getting excited at things as much. A lot of the things i do now are not new to me so less surprise involved. Luckily there are still some things i haven’t done.

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tumblespots

I miss not being able to operate new gadgets (even tv's) easily;

Being able to open pill containers easily as they are actually 'age proof' not 'child proof';

Waking up without wondering which new aches & pains I will get today;

Being able to sleep all night long;

Being able to bend down to reach something, now I have to get onto the floor and get up again;

Endless energy;

No fillings or crowns;

A better memory;

Watching the year march on and wondering why time passes so fast these days;

Buying off the peg clothes without worrying whether they will actually fit properly;

Being able to sit any any chair, with my back problem I can only sit on certain chairs these days;

I probably sound unhappy but I am actually very pleased with my lot and wouldn't go back in time for all the tea in China.

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Pjran

I’m impressed you can get on the floor and get up unaided. Try and focus on the positives count your blessings. I order clothing online so I can try on at my leisure.

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Glitterandgold

Energy! I had it in abundance until my mid 30s. Nowadays I'm just constantly tired & never seem to feel fully refreshed.

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