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Does anyone need to seek approval from their family members before buying a Niece, Nephew, Grandaughter, Grandson a gift? In approval I mean need to show the parent the gift beforehand 🤔🙄

Sammycb
25 days ago
What do you think of this?
chelseaturpin
chelseaturpin25 days ago

Ive done this before and it can be annoying, thats why I started putting money in a card instead. It is so much easier as kids are changing their minds all the time and might've wanted something else by Christmas.

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Mick82
Mick8225 days ago

Have delt with this on a few occasions with my sister is told her nicely it was up to me what I bought as a present and if she had a problem with that i would not bother in future

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Lynibis
Lynibis25 days ago

A gift is a gift and as long as it is age appropriate, children, and their parents should be happy to get it. Not every gift needs to be something on their list, surely a surprise is nice? I really don't like the idea of children getting everything they ask for, it smacks of selfishness and a sense of entitlement.

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lilyflower
lilyflower25 days ago

We buy the Grandchildren what we can afford and always age related, whether they get used or not I've got no idea. My own kids get whatever, I never ask what they want, this year they are getting a box made up of freebies, wins and voucher purchases.

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MrsCraig
MrsCraig25 days ago

I've never had to do it and I don't expect my family members to ask me for approval before buying him something. My mum will sometimes send me a picture and tell me she is planning to buy it for my son but she is merely telling me in case he already has it. My best friend messaged me today to ask if my son would like something she had seen for him. She just wanted to know if he would like it so she wasn't wasting her money, but she certainly didn't need my approval. My mother in law just says I've sent a parcel for him, no approval needed. To me a gift is a gift and I'm grateful for anything that I get given, either for me or my son.

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gerrykelly25
gerrykelly2525 days ago

I think that to expect to vet presents is rather rude and totally opposed to the spirit of giving. I certainly wouldn’t agree to this Sammycb. It is very controlling behaviour. People should be happy to receive gifts without prior approval.

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Sammycb
Sammycb
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25 days ago

gerrykelly25 yes I totally agree with you, it's so uncalled for. My friends daughter in law is a bit of a nightmare. She was telling me she's got to send pics or links for the gifts she's thinking of buying beforehand, merely to get her approval as to whether she likes the idea or not. It's so rude 😠

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gerrykelly25
gerrykelly2525 days ago

Sammycb advise her to be confident in her own choices. It is not acceptable for anyone to dictate to another what to buy.

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NatalyKroxa
NatalyKroxa25 days ago

I always ask,but most of the time just putting money ,I think its easier and kids can go own to shop and choose something, or just put in money jar and save for something.

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Ann1984
Ann198425 days ago

If someone was like this to me I would not seek approval and buy the noisiest annoying toy I could find and give that along a nice gift

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Sammycb
Sammycb
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25 days ago

I agree with you Ann1984 100% 👍

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Moonstone22
Moonstone2225 days ago

Ann1984 Your comment made me laugh, that's the best way to deal with them

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beccatavender
beccatavender25 days ago

I don't live near my family, so I always check with my sister to make sure she hasn't already bought it or the kid's are no longer into what they were before. I hate it when they say just give them £ is seems so impersonal, but as they get older it's easier because they normally want computer games which are more than my budget.

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neo1
neo125 days ago

i always check with my bro as to what I'm buying my niece just to make sure I'm getting the right thing

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Moonstone22
Moonstone2225 days ago

I don't have to ask my family before I buy my nieces and nephews things. I do sometimes ask my family if my nephews and nieces already have a present I wanted to buy them

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hspexy
hspexy25 days ago

No. I wouldn’t bother if that were the case. Would be better off just giving money

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MandeeMayson
MandeeMayson25 days ago

I think seeking approval is a little harsh...... my family liaise!

We only buy for the children in the family so if all of didn’t liaise, we would end up wasting money because the child has 3 of the same thing!

If I buy for my grandsons, I say to my daughter.... I am thinking of buying this for *child*, if she’s says .... oh *adult* has already bought that..... then I am grateful that I am not duplicating! Xxxxx

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Leeann
Leeann24 days ago

My sister used to be like that telling me what her kids has asked for and tell me what to get did it for a few years then I just told her ill get them what I want if they don't like it that's fine but I got them something

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Tk3
Tk324 days ago

Yep, even as an adult my parents need to see what the gift is. I don’t know why?!

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