Does Anyone else Feel a Bit Flat After Christmas?
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Is anyone feeling a little flat? all the build up and preparation and its all over. My son came over on Christmas Eve and has just left, so it feels like its all over. Ever year I am finding it harder and harder to get into the Christmas spirit.
I think everyone feels it's a bit of an anti climax after the big day. My son and his family spent yesterday with me. We had a lush dinner, did a quiz, played scrabble, watched a film, and not a drop of alcohol. To be honest I have only just (5ish) finished cleaning up! But although it's now over for another year, apart from feeling tired, I am content to be alone again until I go to my other son for new year.
Lynibis Its sounds like a fabulous day. Our day was very quiet and today football has been on the TV all day. Plus I think it's because I haven't got anything nice planned for New Year, that it seems so flat.
beccatavender sometimes even something small to look forward to can chase away the blues. I would like to see a film at the cinema, maybe Napolean or the new Willy Wonka. How about you do you like films?
Lynibis I used to love going to try cinema, but haven't been since before Covid, I like gentle British films.
Yes everyone feels flat after Christmas. Christmas is an indulgent time but actually I’m glad most of the stress is over. I still have one more party to host. After that, roll on summer days in the garden again and trips away. 
It's always the same for me once my kids open their presents and had dinner it's done for me kids had fun tho that's all I wanted
Leannexxx I think is because my son is now 26, so all his presents are practical. I don't see any young children in the day so it's just flat...compared to when he was younger. My Mum used to say Christmas is for kids, I can now understand that sentiment.
beccatavender I have to say I agree with your mother mine would say the same the last few years it hasn't felt like Christmas at all same with this one even tho I've got a 12 and 2 year old dunno why something just didn't feel right
Leannexxx For me it's since my Mum passed away, 3 years ago, I used to go home to Wales to see family in December but haven't been home since her funeral, it's just too painful
beccatavender honestly it will never feel the same again after losing my mum too what gets to me most is that she never got to meet my kids
I think that the shops and t.v. make the run up to Christmas longer and longer each year it's not a surprise that it's an anticlimax when it's here. That's why I like the advent 24days the most
Auntielettie I must admit each year I buy more and more advent calendars, bought a cake one this year which I would recommend.
We have never had the blessing of our own children so it’s always been about everybody else’s. It can be quite painful to get through. Even though nieces and nephews are now grown up our parents are elderly and some already passed. Just the 2 of us aging together in future.
JLouM I'm so sorry you feel the loss of your hopes so keenly. My best friends chose never to have children. They lavish all their love and attention on each other.
comriegold We wanted them but for quite a few financial and medical reasons weren’t able to have them, it wasn’t our choice.
JLouM I am very sorry to hear that. Have you considered fostering? My friends are foster carer's. They do an amazing job.
comriegold Yes I admire people who do but that was never for us really, just wanted our own. Ship sailed now we are in our 50s.
I've been ill for a week!
Was in my bed for the big dinner.
Missed a weekend in, Edinburgh .
But grateful to be feeling a bit better.
Celebrate the birth of Jesus. He's the reason for this special time
Sweetheart is there a church service near you ? A nativity always makes everyone remember the reason we celebrate
I'm sorry your feeling a little flat 
, myself on the other hand l have no family and am a carer so l worked extra shifts both Christmas & Boxing day and haven't really had a moment to myself, keeping busy is my saviour at this time of the year.
Pinkspirit I so admire carers and the difference they make in enabling people to have some independence. I saw a photo on our local Facebook page about people providing a Christmas dinner for the local community and thought if my health improves I will hopefully get involved with something like that and do something positive. I used to volunteer in the past.
beccatavender l wish you good health for the future 
, l started by volunteering years ago by driving people to community halls for Christmas day lunch, it was the highlight of their day and their tipsy conversations on the way home in the car made me laugh but the pleasure it gave me was 10/10 .
I'm not a fan of Christams for many reasons but try and keep a smile on my face when visiting in-laws and son on Christmas morning but inside i'm so sad, just put a smile on my face to make sure others are happy.
HEDGEHOGS I know what you mean, putting on a front when you are not feeling in the festive mood. Hopefully the new year will be better.
to hear you feel sad inside! Hope you are okay! Take care of yourself!! Yeah like there’s all this build up every year then it’s just over so fast!
I’m already thinking of putting away the Xmas 
and all the decorations lol
I was on a Caribbean cruise and got home on Christmas Eve. I went shopping to purchase a few extra bits. Had six people in total. No decorations up apart from large real Christmas tree outside. We had crackers and a candle on the table. We don’t do gifts unless someone wants to. So now we have no clearing up which I think is the worse thing. It was all over in a day so we are back to normal. We have our next cruise booked for the end of January so something to look forward too.
I haven’t spoken to many people this year who feel christmassy which kind of makes sense given all that’s going on in this country and abroad
jms19 Too true, which is why I feel guilty about feeling down, as I know I should feel grateful 
Yeah it's normal, the older you get the more flat is becomes, it's all for the kids, I just wasn't feeling it this year at all
martinlufc5637 yeah I agree with you and so true
I wasn’t going to put up the small Xmas but in the end I did lol 
Kinda makes you feel a bit happier 
I dislike Christmas but for personal reasons- over the years I have had an awful lot of problems over the Christmas period. I will always spend time with my grandkids which cheers me up - but when i am tired i know i can go home.
Some of the sad feelings can start from actually having the seasonal affected disorder (SAD). So a friend of mine bought me one of those special lamps that mimics sunshine - i have set it so it comes on slowly from about 6am - by 7.30 am it’s incredibly bright- i have found this has helped me massively- i will actually get out of bed early (which i never do lol). And it has lifted my mood. Doesn’t work for everyone- but it has for me.
Could you not have gone with him...I felt flat before Christmas...went and sat in the garden..Looked around and saw the new life of bulbs lifting their little heads ready to come and brighten my day..in a few weeks time
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