Hospital Stopped Visitors for My Mum
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My mother in law is really unwell in hospital, she has not got the virus. But because of regulations my father in law, her husband for over 65 years is not allowed to visit. This is so sad, they have spoken via Whats ap which the nurses helped with. She may only have a few days with us, would you and wouldn’t you insist my father in law be allowed in?
My surgery is shut down they texted me doors are closed till further notice people only can call for health advice
Sorry to hear about your mother in law. If it was my partner of 65 years I'm afraid nothing would stop me being with them if they only had a few days left. Good luck with getting your father in law to be with her.
Totally this. If she only had a few days left, then I'd definitely be there.
First my sympathies. . . there is no easy answer and I'm not sure why the restriction on visitors is in place. I suppose though that the hospital are only doing what they consider is in the best interests of your mother in law and her husband and might have to be accepted.
Hopefully things get better.
Restrictions in place due to Coronavirus and because my father in law is over 80 and has health issues. He survived eight heart attacks this time last year and only has 33% of heart working. He did make a remarkable recovery.
eyeballkerry Well let's hope your mother in law makes a remarkable recovery too.
(and let's hope the preceding is taken in the way it's sincerely meant).
How awful for them, particularly because she has only a few days with us. I totally understand why they are doing the limited visitors etc. I work in a hospital and think it should be assessed individually. In this instance I think the rule should be overlooked as you will not get this time back. So sorry for you and your family at this difficult time. Sending lots of love
I would look for the hospitals PALS or version of. This is the patient liason team. All hospitals have a version of it. They are the people to go to if you have issues with your or a relative/friend's helpcare. I was going to them a lot when I was trying to get my dad's cancer treated back in 2014. There's also your local MP if no joy from them.
The government believe the elderly are the most vulnerable which is why they allow no visits even in care homes this will stop them from catching Corona virus.
I wasn't arguing - I was refuting LIES told about me - on the Topic where they were made. And wished to draw attention via tags to Tom And Kelsey to someone who had chosen to disrupt this topic. The "can you ban this user" topic wasn't started until after this - and I wasn't aware of it until I was nearly through the above reply. (which I thought I made quite clear).
Added by edit the following day lilyflower as you will notice Gary's little but disgusting spat has been removed as as his "can you ban this user" Topic. (I thought they might be) - if you wish to delete your comment above (perhaps edit down to a DOT or 
) I will do the same with this reply perhaps this unpleasant matter, will then be at a complete end, and just two s remain as a reminder.
Sorry to hear this. I’d insist visitation. I know it’ll be difficult for the nhs staff to accommodate, but usually they’re human and will sympathise and understand. All you can do is keep trying
I can see the reasons given I know it's heart breaking for your family, it was only yesterday I was reading a carehome had 6 residents tested positive which was with visitors coming in but if they do it for you then they will have to do it for the next I no it's hard I lost my mum Dec and father in law feb
My mother in law is still in hospital and has been moved to small ward which is good news for the family but now the hospital is on lockdown due to a member of the public walking into A&E with the virus. So no visitors allowed at all.
I'm so sorry, it's such a sad situation. I hope that she will be able to have family to visit her very soon x
My husband got the call today from the hospital for him and all his brothers and sisters to get to the hospital, they were all allowed in as well as his dad. Unfortunately my mother in law is unable to communicate which is very sad but they have all got to see. The ward is classed as green not red this is why they were allowed.
Could your mum in law come home for her last few days at all perhaps? Maybe ask the consultant about this?
Unfortunately not, she is continuously on oxygen and is not responding to anyone.
.Im so sorry for you all.try to keep strong.Just a quick update, mother in law actually spoke to her family yesterday and in a slow and quiet voice told them she loved them which was wonderful. She is getting a lot weaker but at least the family are allowed to see her. Her husband is not going in anymore.
This must be a very sad and difficult time for the family. My thoughts are with you.
I think it's unfortunate and we are in unprecedented times. The rules are there for a reason. It's super sad but we are where we are. My thoughts are with you at this incredibly difficult time. Xx
My mother in law passed away an hour ago. My husband is still at the hospital with his brothers and sisters.
I am so sorry for you all, now and the days ahead will be difficult. I'm here if you want to chat as I'm sure lots of your LD friends will be. Love and hugs from us all xx
eyeballkerry Please accept my heartfelt condolences on the loss of your beloved Mother-in-Law. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.
take care .
lilyflower Thank you so much, you are really kind and your words are much appreciated xx My husband is suffering more plus the fact he has been at the hospital all day he is now in isolation from the rest of the household which is hard for everyone. The funeral is going to be very difficult as we have heard only 10 people are allowed to attend. My husband is one of 7 and his father will be going. We are going to take each day as it comes and remember the good times and what a wonderful kind person she was. I couldn’t have asked for a better mother in law.
Sanitation1234 Thank you, it so nice getting all these kind words from complete strangers at this difficult time, thank you xx
xlilyflower I am ok but husband is struggling. Latest with funeral is 10 people allowed but they said this can change at any time. I keep reminding him to remember the good times and what a fantastic life she had, but it is still very hard for him. Thank you for still thinking of us all, really kind xx
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