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I must admit I do not mind being single, it has many advantages, and at my age I am not wanting to be married or living with someone ever again. (Probably one of us would end up nursing the other! 🤭 ) However, I would like a special friend to go out and about with as it is soul destroying trying to make the effort to do things alone. Never going for a meal, cinema, theatre, pub, etc unless it is with a family member or friend, and I feel myself on the rocky road to becoming a recluse!

Back in the day family used to act as matchmakers and introduce people, arrange blind dates etc but it seems no one has the time for anything these days.

Lynibis
14 days ago
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Yahya
Yahya14 days ago

I agree with you Lynibis unfortunately everything has gone onto apps where you swipe swipe..This tech era is slowing killing real human interactions which is sad!

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Lynibis
Lynibis
Original Poster
14 days ago

Yes, I tried online dating but for every success story there seems to be 100 that go very wrong. As I work with children and mainly female co-workers and as I work weird hours I never actually meet anyone, let alone an eligible gentleman over 60 lol.

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GlitchHunter
GlitchHunter14 days ago

You don't have to be a recluse. There are lots of social clubs in the local area that is not for couples. You could join a club and learn a new skill. There are reading clubs or board game nights, just search on facebook in your local area. I'm sure you will find someone. And why does it have to be a "special" friend to go out to meals/ cinema with? Why not just your close friends? Just make more effort to contact them. Life is busy and sometimes we all need to reach out more.

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Lynibis
Lynibis
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14 days ago

I think you have misunderstood me. The hours I work do not allow me to regularly attend any type of club. I get my work on Friday night for the following week so hard to plan ahead. Even medical appointments are difficult to book. I do of course have friends, 3 very good female friends who I see for lunch or out for meal whenever our commitments allow as one is married with job and family, one works in a supermarket so hours rarely match mine and the 3rd is my best friend of 30 years. We get together most Sunday evenings and have a meal and watch a film in Winter and maybe cinema other times. We have had the odd holiday or weekend away. She does not have the funds for expensive outings and I cannot always afford to pay for both of us.

My sons and grandkids are fantastic but almost everyone likes to have a special someone and it is hard when you shut the door and there is no one to share your day with or share life in general.

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Lynibis
Lynibis
Original Poster
14 days ago

PS When I retire I fully intend to join clubs and go to classes as I have done in past when I worked a regular 9 to 5 job.

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GlitchHunter
GlitchHunter14 days ago

Lynibis Ah I see. Sorry I did misunderstand. Sometimes I think making new friends is a good way to meet new people and they will in turn know someone who is also looking for a partner and can introduce you.

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Lynibis
Lynibis
Original Poster
14 days ago

GlitchHunter Yes you are right and that was my original point as I would certainly be up for friends and family making an introduction, that was how it was done in the 'old days' but people just don't seem to socialise so much these days. When young married we often had friends round for dinner but people don't seem to do that these days.

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nipperjwb
nipperjwb14 days ago

I think if youre brave enough to try the internet then you could find a companion. Im far too wary to try that though.

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Lynibis
Lynibis
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14 days ago

I did online dating and can say that, without exception, the respondents wanted only one thing and were often found to be married. They wanted fantasy playmates to indulge their 'unusual' tastes. One was an adult baby, another wanted to meet without any pre knowledge to act out meeting a stranger in a bar etc. I am afraid I am too 'normal' for all that lol. Just a nice man who enjoys outings, hobbies, theatre etc who is happy to be a friend first and see what happens. There are plenty of matches for everyone, it is just getting them together lol!!!!

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nipperjwb
nipperjwb14 days ago

Lynibis that is very true.

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ShellyAnn
ShellyAnn14 days ago

I've done online dating and when I say I'm done with that, I mean it. A hothouse of personality disorders who can hide behind a keyboard until you meet them and I've ended up with several dates/short term boyfriends who I've had trouble getting rid of. I'm talking stallker types. No way I'm doing that ever again. To be honest, I've had such bad experiences dating I don't care that I'm single. I'm not looking. I'm not interested. Looking at cute guys in bands on youtube is good enough for me. I've had several people intervene and suggest dates to me, hook me up, etc and that has been a disaster and actually ended one good friendship. I've had to be very clear to people that I'm not on the market and to stop forcing random single guys they know on me. Being single is so much easier.

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Lynibis
Lynibis
Original Poster
14 days ago

I am wondering if you are a good deal younger than me Shelly? I agree with all you have said but find it harder to have a social life as I get older. Young women today can go out more easily, I was raised in a time of women alone frowned upon for entering a pub! I am not interested in marriage or living with someone but a close male friend i feel free to phone and say, fancy cinema on Friday, or wanna come for dinner on Sunday or even stay weekends. But it ain't gonna happen so won't hold my breath.

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nicolajaynehend
nicolajaynehend13 days ago

Hi lynibis 8 years ago i had a very bad partner. And it put me of men. For life. Then in June this year my dad was moving back with me because his time was near and I wanted to spend has much time with him. There was this lovely bloke helping my dad to move back with me . And you guess it we fell in love .it's been 8 month. My dad pass away in October last year. And my partner has been my rock. I don't get to see him a lot because he lives far from me. And he has his own busses to run. But he ring me every day. 💘💘

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Lynibis
Lynibis
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13 days ago

I can't see that scenario ever happening Nicola, the chances of meeting an older guy by chance is pretty slim! Maybe I will just wait until the care home beckons, the men won't stand a chance as they won't be able to run away!!!👵

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