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My mum has asked for a Dyson cordless vacuum for her 70th birthday this year! It's way out of my budget but I could get it on credit and more than I would spend on my own children! What do I do? Not that it really matters but she wouldn't spend more than 20 on my gifts and stopped buying me anything (clothes or anything I wanted) the second I got a part time job at 13 (taught me a valuable lesson though). I moved out age 16.

MumOfThree
over a year ago
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SandyRhodes

If you were able to club together with all your family members that may be one solution but otherwise I personally would just explain it was way over budget and you would not be buying one. It is a very expensive gift in my eyes so I don't think she would be surprised if you just said no. Good luck with whatever you decide 🙂

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Lynibis

Most families club together for milestone birthdays so hopefully she can do this with siblings, cousins, parent's siblings etc.

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Lynibis

I would not put my kids in that position. They could both afford to buy it but I never ask for anything over 50 and then I ask for it to be a joint present. They always ignore me though!

Does your mum realise how much Dysons are or has she just seen ads and think they are about 100 like lots of other hoovers? I would get a catalogue or show her online and ask which one she was thinking of, then say 'ooh didn't realise they were that expensive, I will have to take out a loan!' Then look her in the eye with raised eyebrows.

On a practical note, my son gave me his dyson when they upgraded but I found it so cumbersome and heavy, though good, and found it hard to use. I nearly fell down the stairs with it a couple of times. I am relatively strong and healthy but 5 years younger than your mum, so you could point that out? I now have a Gtech..........brilliant.

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MumOfThree

Thank you it could well be ignorance in her part it has to be discussed I just feel really guilty

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Lynibis

francescarobert just realised you said cordless, my one was corded so that was why it was heavy and cumbersome.

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AgnesFaludi

I think QVC has some and u can get in on installments.

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Metrovski

Get her one of these 😅

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yogibear2007

I’d say no matter how much you want to get some one a gift you should never put yourself into difficulties and I’m sure she’d understand that it’s not in your budget to get such a gift people are not as bothered by the gifts they receive as we think

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MumOfThree

It's not ideal but I feel guilty

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yogibear2007

definately don’t feel guilty you’ve got to remember that your security financialy is more important than an expensive gift to someone else if I’ve read correctly you’ve got your children to think of and you never know what is around the corner that may need paying ford and if you’ve got the gift on credit then it will pile up on top, she’d rather see you stable and happy rather than something that you ideally couldn’t afford, a gift is a gift the price shouldn’t even come into it.

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Lynibis

I absolutely agree with you but unfortunately some parents are belligerent and selfish and think their kids owe them. Hopefully frances' mother is not one of them.

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Johnny

I'd look at other cordless vacuum cleaners made by other brands. There are lots of deals on Amazon. For example the Morphy Richards Supervac 2-in-1 Cordless Vacuum Cleaner is currently 46% off at £79.99. See Cordless Vacuum Cleaner Best Buys at Amazon, here.

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jakemoss

How many years has it been since you moved out? If you're an adult legally you don't have to do as she says lol. If it's too expensive tell her in a gentle manner.

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RegularComper90

The only good thing about Dyson is the name. It is an overrated and overpriced brand. You can get plenty of cheap and cheerful just as good vacuum cleaners elsewhere.

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MumOfThree

Thank you that's good to know, think I am going to look at a cheaper option

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yogibear2007

Yes definitely other alternative brands that are excellent I’ve always been a fan of vax they are my persona go to brand for vacuums

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Lynibis

There is currently a comp to win a Dyson cordless on first comp page.

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jayy123

There are usually cordless Dyson’s on ebay (refurbished) for under £200. Alternatively, near Xmas time, they are ALWAYS on offer. Depending on the model, definitely wait for Xmas time. If you have siblings and other family, split the cost. Depending on the amount of people, you could all put in £40-£50 and collectively buy the gift. If that’s not an option, just give her the money in an envelope and tell her it is your share towards the hoover. 👍🏻

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