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Have you ever been asked to pay to attend a wedding? Would you pay? This is on top of buying a gift?

eyeballkerry
15 days ago
What do you think of this?
Ann1984
Ann198415 days ago

They can stick there wedding how rude people are today

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SilverSurfer
SilverSurfer15 days ago

Not a chance and I don't think you should ever ask

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Leannexxx
Leannexxx14 days ago

No I wouldn't pay at all i thought it was rude my sister was asked to be maid of honor and was told she will have to pay 250 for the dress the bride wanted

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seasider71
seasider7114 days ago

Never heard of this before but no I wouldn't. I think crowdfunding and such like is getting out of hand.

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Pjran
Pjran14 days ago

That really doesn’t seem right to pay but they’ve got ba//s asking. Wedding are just too expensive these days and with every business charging so much people should just get married in the registrar office.

The average total cost of a wedding in 2019 was £31,974.

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TheChimp
TheChimp14 days ago

Pjran How much?! 😲

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Chelchel
Chelchel13 days ago

Pjran would love to know who in their right mind would pay over £30k and how too. My adoptive dad had a wedding about 6 years ago, they did majority themselves, cost them about £500 in the end, proof it doesn't need to be expensive

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Pjran
Pjran13 days ago

Chelchel my daughters friends wedding was rather expensive in fact in excess of the average I quoted. Also the hen do cost the guests a lot, flights, hotel, taxis and restaurants. Gone are the days when it would just be drinks at the local pub.

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sunny101
sunny10114 days ago

I've never been asked to pay and, as you mentioned, that would be on top of a gift. There are so many other costs, that being part of the wedding party incur, so it seems beyond rude to ask. Then again.....there are a lot of Bridezillas about.

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beccatavender
beccatavender14 days ago

I have never been asked to pay, but it all depends on the financial position of the couple, do they want to share it with their friends but can't afford to, so are they asking close friends of they wouldn't mind paying for your own meal ? In that case I would pay. But if they just wanted a flash wedding I wouldn't pay

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Pppathome
Pppathome14 days ago

I would say Im washing my hair 🤣

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Golfforall
Golfforall14 days ago

Never have been but can understand it . Why on earth do couples blow what amounts to a deposit on a house for a "posh wedding " ? Prices driven by Wedding planners 😒. I suppose if your "friends" are that shallow ... why not charge them for the privilege of attending their "face book wedding " 🙄?

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angelik
angelik14 days ago

I haven't been asked to pay to attend a wedding, but if I was I wouldn't pay, I think that's a bit rude.

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Golfforall
Golfforall14 days ago

If asked to chip in for a pal I'd gladly do it (however much I disapprove of the cost of weddings ). But as an "entrance fee " to attend the wedding - No way !

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angelik
angelik14 days ago

Golfforall If a good friend was struggling to pay for the essentials for their wedding, I would probably help a bit if I could. But asking everyone to pay just to attend is too cheeky!

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stuartsmith544
stuartsmith54414 days ago

I was asked many years ago to be the best man at the wedding ,Just under a couple of months before the wedding I was told I would have to pay for the hire of my suit which left me a bit miffed but I paid for it .Just 1 flaw on the day of the wedding the bride left the groom at the alter.

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hspexy
hspexy14 days ago

In my culture, we tend to gift money at weddings, so I guess it’s a similar thing (to help out with the costs)

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eyeballkerry
eyeballkerry
Original Poster
14 days ago

We are being asked to give a gift of money and also pay to go so two separate payments as such

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hspexy
hspexy14 days ago

eyeballkerry I guess it depends on how much they’re asking for, and who they are. I gave £200 at the last wedding I attended - that covered the lot

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ACR
ACR14 days ago

Probably not, I'd find an excuse to get out of attending. Although, it's not that much different if the couple want to get married abroad. They expect you to cover flights, accommodation and other expenses. Fine for family and very close friends. Otherwise, no 💍

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neo1
neo114 days ago

No way would I pay ! they'd have to pay me most of the time 🤣 depending who it was of course 😇

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rossruby1977
rossruby197714 days ago

I’d pay not to go to a wedding !!!

Who’s asked to pay then ? I think people spend way too much on weddings. Yet again it’s like to keep up with what others do.

Get married have a wedding that you can afford. If you for money to waste then fair play.

The money they spend is keeping others in a job.

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tumblespots
tumblespots14 days ago

No, I wouldn't pay to attend. The costs of attending in the first place can be huge. You have to buy new outfits, a decent present and probably pay to stay somewhere. In fact, thinking about it I'd rather not be asked to a wedding at all.

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eyeballkerry
eyeballkerry
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14 days ago

This is another issue the venue is miles away and we would probably have to stay overnight. They have offered free camping if you bring your own tent and sent a list of nearby hotels, thoughtful lol. I already have an outfit so there’s a saving !

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tumblespots
tumblespots14 days ago

eyeballkerry I don't think I could stay in a tent - there's no toilet!

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Imnotcheap
Imnotcheap14 days ago

Never I've been asked for money towards honeymoon as gift but that's it. I would prefer to keep costs down by not going

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Lynibis
Lynibis14 days ago

These days most couples already live together so buying gifts is risky as you may duplicate. Even if they don't live together they risk not getting things they really need but a load of stuff they don't need.

I don't see anything wrong in asking for money in lieu of gifts and if they choose to use it to offset the wedding costs that is fine by me.

A couple I know had a sort of post box discreetly in a corner where you could post money and no one would know whether you gave £5 or £500!

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eyeballkerry
eyeballkerry
Original Poster
14 days ago

I don’t mind giving money into a box as their ‘ present ‘ but asking for more towards the wedding I do not agree with. Like others have commented.

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Lynibis
Lynibis14 days ago

eyeballkerry yes that is very cheeky and I would rather not attend if I was blatantly asked to pay too many costs towards my own attendance.

When I got married it was register office, back to aunt's for reception, everyone brought a plate of food, record player for music and we had a great time. We paid for booze but even so, many 'brought a bottle'.

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gerrykelly25
gerrykelly2514 days ago

I think it is becoming more common for guests to be asked to pay to attend a wedding. I have heard of several cases. I think that some couples want a big wedding but don’t necessarily have the funds to pay for it! I would be really uncomfortable if asked to such a wedding as I wouldn’t want to appear mean, but would not want to pay for the privilege on principle!

I certainly wouldn’t want to be staying in a tent eyeballkerry in my wedding finery!

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KazLou
KazLou14 days ago

I wouldnt pay to attend, i would give money as a wedding gift but that is all

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Grannyclock
Grannyclock14 days ago

It is unnecessary to spend huge amounts on a wedding. I wouldn’t mind betting that there is an inverse correlation between amount spent and the time the marriage lasts.

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MrsCraig
MrsCraig13 days ago

I've never been asked to pay to attend a wedding. My mother in law briefly mentioned that she would need to charge people for their meal as she couldn't afford to pay for everyone she wanted there. We told her that she couldn't ask people to pay. We told her she either needed to reduce her guest list to an amount she could afford or she needed to compromise somewhere else. When her mother heard she was charging people she was horrified and she paid for the food.

When we got married we had the wedding we could afford and had a small guest list. I don't mind giving a cash gift, that way the couple can use it for what they need to but to be asked to pay on top of that, plus the other costs, I would not be happy and I would not go.

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JayneTaylor571
JayneTaylor57113 days ago

no sorry I wouldn't, Who would you be paying ? the venue or the Bride n Groom .

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PinkElephant26
PinkElephant2613 days ago

I wouldn't, I'd tell them to shove it! Nowadays people seem to try to out-do other people with their weddings and it ends up being a competition. Part of the reason i dont want to get married is its just soooo expensive!

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tara73ziva
tara73ziva13 days ago

If they can’t afford a wedding they should just have a small one instead of asking people to pay for it

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