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People Not Thanking You When You Hold the Door Open for Them

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If there's one thing that really gets my goat, that would be people not thanking you when you hold the door open for them and walking through as if you are invisible. All it takes is one of two words.

When that happens to me (like it did today) I just say to them "you're welcome".

RegularComper90
over a year ago
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SandyRhodes

I always say 'you're welcome' really loudly too 😂 It really bugs the life out of me, how hard is it to say thank you 😡 People are getting worse when it comes to manners.

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RegularComper90

I sometimes feel like slamming the doors in their faces. 😡

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Tasha042

RegularComper90 yes this bugs me too! Or when people bump into you and don't say sorry 😡 No one has manners anymore!

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RegularComper90

Tasha042 I have had this happen to me a lot, and apparently it is MY fault. 🙄

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Tasha042

RegularComper90 people can be so rude. One person hit me with a basket when I was heavily pregnant and didn't apologize. They just don't have any cares in the world.

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Lynibis

Or when you sit at the end of the street for quite some time to allow an another vehicle to pass and they just ignore you as they go by!

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Jamala

Or when you reverse into a passing bay for a car on country lanes even though they have just passed a more convenient place to stop and they don't acknowledge you.. Grrr 😠 Dawn French sent these drivers to Room 101 and the majority of the population of Devon and Cornwall cheered! 🤣

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SuzJ

Yeah, that annoys me too. And you can be there for ages too - hold the door open for a lady with a buggy (or similar) and then before you know it you're standing there like a doorman not wanting to let the door loose in someone's face.

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tumblespots

It is a sad reflecton on the world when in the main, as has happened, manners are not taught or followed except by the older generation (me included).

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Jamala

I agree it is a sad reflection of the world - sadly the older generation are often just as bad. Recently I held the door open for an elderly lady who then stopped midway through and started fumbling in her handbag. I smiled at the person patiently waiting behind her to be rewarded with 'I don't know what you think is so funny'

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tumblespots

Jamala That's awful, it just shows that manners/lack of manners has few boundaries. It all depends on the upbringing. I shall thank you now for holding the door for her, whoever she was. I would have been tempted to let the door go at that point and she how she got on...

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Jamala

tumblespots What goes around comes around. I treat people with respect and would like to be treated the same way - doesn't mean I don't walk off muttering a sarcastic comment!

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PhilipMarc

The older generation (Baby Boomers) are partly what caused much of the disruption, disrespect, hypocrisy and among other things.

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Jamala

Rockman Hmm .... as a 60's baby boomer not sure how to answer that one

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tumblespots

Jamala As another baby boomer - I also struggled with this one. I don't believe that I cause disruption, or am hypcritical. I also believe that my morals, behaviour and manners are very good indeed. But then, perhaps those who we believe don't have these things also believe that they actually do have them?!?! Who knows

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PhilipMarc

tumblespots Some Baby Boomers are pretty cool but most are part of the problem that they've allowed, and it exists today.

This video covers said issues:

This one is also worth watching (and short).

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tumblespots

Rockman Well, I got to 35 seconds and as I don't like that sort of language will not watch the rest of this idiot.

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PhilipMarc

tumblespots He can be a bit vulgar but he's spot on.

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PhilipMarc

tumblespots I don't want you to think that I'm being unfair to you or your generation. Actually, I envy so much the Baby Boomer Gen., you guys (and gals) had the best years before the 2000's came along and that's time no one can return to, sadly.

Most people from your era just take things for granted, then again, same can be said for others too.

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tumblespots

Rockman I'm sorry, but I don't take anything for granted. I come from the era where I was paying 16% interest on my first mortgage and struggled to buy anything that I needed (Note needed - not wanted). I had £1 per month left from my monthy pay cheque which didn't even cover my food bill. It has not been an easy life!

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MrsCraig

I always say thank you if someone opens the door for me! I have found that people have been opening the door for me a lot recently (think the massive baby bump might be why) and I say thank you everytime. Whether it was one of the pupils at work or a man at the hospital, it is just the polite thing to do. My dad always held the door open for people and my husband is the same. If he sees someone needing help then he always offers to help them.

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RegularComper90

Your dad and husband are what I consider as real men. In fact, gentlemen.

And congratulations on your pregnancy. x

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MrsCraig

Thanks! They are indeed gentlemen. My dad does it as his father taught him and my husband does it as his granny and mum taught him. For the two of them it goes beyond just holding the door open. If they see someone struggle to reach something on a top shelf, they will get it for them. My husband will help people with luggage if they are struggling, they will help mums with young babies. They will offer to help anyone if they see someone needs it. I hope my wee one takes after his dad and grandad.

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sarahtwinmom

Manners cost nothing, i have twin boys and always say to them be polite use your manners as it does get you a long way. People are just rude and i hate it. Takes seconds to say thanks you. We lead by example and if the older generation dont say thank you how are the younger generation expected to learn. I always offer to help people in need.......the world has gone mad!!!!

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Ceebers

A simple thank you is so easy to say but forgotten by many. I think manners are a sign of a good upbringing. Perhaps I am old fashioned.

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Grannyclock

Just to say the young are not all bad. When we went on a cruise we ended up having to come back by train across London because we had a car accident in Southampton. We had 3 big suitcases and struggled on the stairs. A ‘gang‘ of Singing football supporters approached and one lad offered to carry 2 cases up the stairs for us. He was about 18 and the only one in London to help.

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NatashaMinard

i hate this too & i hate it when people stop in front of you while your walking making you walk in to them then they have the cheek to give me the dirty look coz iv'e walked into them has if i was in the wrong, manners dont cost nothing my mother always said treat others how you want to be treated have respect they will show it back but has we all know thats not always the case.

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PhilipMarc

Nowadays, it can be considered and seen as "sexist" and "misogynistic" for men to hold the door for a lady, never mind whatever he might say cause that could be "harassment" (like, thank you). Fun times we live in.

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tumblespots

The other day Mr Tumblespots and I were in a shop and had to follow an assistant to another section of the shop (buying glasses). As we went to go down the stairs Mr T said to the lady 'Ladies first' and she gave him such a look, he was quite taken aback!

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RegularComper90

I have thoroughly enjoyed reading all of your comments. Thank you to everyone who contributed. It's really nice to be reminded that there are many good people in the world.👍

Something else I don't like, which is similar to the door situation is when people don't thank the driver when getting off the bus.

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MrsCraig

I don't take the bus that often, but when I do, I always thank the bus driver! I am always taken back when a pupil thanks me at the end of a lesson! It is always the pupils you wouldn't expect to thank you as well!

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Lynibis

As a baby boomer I am proud to be part of a generation that, for the most part, had morals, manners and didn't do half the stuff youngsters do today. Yes, there were those who committed crime and rebelled etc but I was brought up to respect my body and didn't 'put it about' , didn't take drugs or drink heavily and I had respect for my elders. I didn't drop litter, nor did I swear, still don't, or speak 'with attitude'. I

If being a decent person caused the woes of the world I dread to think what the last few generations of promiscuous, swearing, rude, benefit scroungers (those who are not genuine), are going to make of it. In my opinion those who rule the world are of the same ilk generation upon generation mostly from the privileged world and they never seem to change with their old boy network and mentality. It is crazy to blame a group of people born in a certain window of time for all the ills of the world. Human nature whatever the time has always been greedy, violent, and self promoting.

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AgnesFaludi

People do not care anymore and it is not just about opening the door...

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Deleted67475

I just make an example of people who dont say thank you by being extra nice - im so glad i held the door open for you lovely sir :L

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hspexy

unfortunately, manners seem to be a lost culture - and there are many cultures that have different sort of manners. I think I read somewhere in the Middle East where it is a compliment to be spat on...unless it was a joke made at tourists! lol

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JandE86

i thought when we do or extend gestures of kindness, wel l of course it's really satisfying when atleast theyare appreciated however for me this not be expected as acts of kindness must be already innate to us... 🙂 It gratifies and fulfills us in a way. 😃

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