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Do You Teach Your Children Lessons for Later Life?

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Do they know how to peel potatoes, boil an egg, change a duvet, use a washing machine/iron, make tea/coffee, clean their shoes?

Do you teach them how to cook, keep a home clean and tidy, grow a seed, sew on a button or take up/down a hem etc. Are there things you have taught them I haven't listed?

Lynibis
1 month ago
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Ann1984
Ann19841 month ago

I make mine help around the house make them strip beds, they try to put back on but takes too long I end up doing it. They clean make tea, sandwiches for themselves toast ect. I won't let them near the washer to ruin clothes. I can't boil a egg nevermind them😂 I can sew a button but that's about it

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Lynibis
Lynibis
Original Poster
1 month ago

Lol, that made me laugh about the boiled egg. I can cook but I find it hard to get an egg just right. It is good you get the kids to help, I believe home isn't an hotel and no family member should be waited on once old enough to help.

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Ann1984
Ann19841 month ago

Lynibis I can never get it runny 😂 most times they ask for bin bags to clean

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Pjran
Pjran1 month ago

Yes I tried to and I always kept our home clean and tidy. They obviously didn’t learn those simple tasks!

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Lynibis
Lynibis
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1 month ago

I don't think we are firm enough with our kids these days. Sit here and I will show you how to see on a button. Kid says no so we shrug and give up when we should be saying, I said come here and watch then you will have a go. Children are given too much freedom and choice these days. Something I ranted about in a topic about kids and Christmas gifts!

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gerrykelly25
gerrykelly251 month ago

When my daughter lived at home, she treated the house like a hotel. Sometimes I would go in to her room and find a pile of ironed clothes that I had left on her bed to be put away in a heap on the floor 😮

When she was younger, I taught her to cook and clean and to iron.

Now she has her own home, I find she keeps it really neat and clean - so she must have absorbed something! She doesn’t iron though as she says life is too short! I don’t think any of her peers do. All the sewing is saved for my visits too...

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Lynibis
Lynibis
Original Poster
1 month ago

I must admit, I cannot remember the last time I ironed but it is not necessary most of the time.

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kfe202
kfe2021 month ago

Most clothes these days are made so that they don't need to be ironed. Yay for synthetic fabrics and crease-free shirts. I'm aghast at how many people can't sew a button on, though, or boil an egg. We're probably going to see a return to these kinds of skills now as with the virus, it's getting harder to just go out and buy stuff.

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Lynibis
Lynibis
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1 month ago

Yep, I know a couple of people who don't even own an iron.

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chelseaturpin
chelseaturpin1 month ago

I'll honestly admit I didnt know how to do half of these when I moved out. Wish I had been tought all this and more when I still lived at home, wouldve made life a lot easier when I first moved out. Ill definitely be teaching my kids as much as possible for when they have to move out on their own

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Lynibis
Lynibis
Original Poster
1 month ago

I have to be honest Chelsea, and I know I will get stick for it, but I think we are far too easy on kids these days. Just because a parent sets boundaries and disciplines it does not mean it is an unloving household. Parents are not doing their offspring any favours by killing them with kindness. Look how many feed their kids junk food , sweets and crisps, setting them up for an adulthood of diabetes and heart problems, literally killing them.

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chelseaturpin
chelseaturpin1 month ago

Lynibis i totally agree with you

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Ann1984
Ann19841 month ago

I had to grow up very early in life from having a ill mum who died young with no dad around. Cook and clean while she would be at hospital having treatment. Yes got loads wrong but I soon learned, if you don't teach your kids while young they be useless when standing on their own 2 feet. My Inlaws would say can't make them do that I always done for my son well my reply always is more fool you because am not the slave they can get their own cloths out at night for morning.

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Imnotcheap
Imnotcheap1 month ago

I know people who do that my daughter would go mad if I tried telling her what to wear and when

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Lynibis
Lynibis
Original Poster
1 month ago

Imnotcheap Depending on age you don't have to tell her what to wear and when, it is the hanging clothes up and putting them in laundry basket etc they should do from an early age. Remember YOU are the parent and they do what you say, if they don't like it and strop off so be it. They will soon get over it and soon learn that parents are not to be messed with. Too many parents are scared of their kids. The trick is to not make them scared of you but to know that you mean what you say and they do not have a choice.

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Imnotcheap
Imnotcheap1 month ago

Not yet with my younger children they bit young for most things but I make sure my eldest knows how to do things for herself. She is 17 this week she may need to know how to do them when going uni I've heard horror stories of people ringing mum up when they get there to ask simple things

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Lynibis
Lynibis
Original Poster
1 month ago

Yep, someone said on here that someone's daughter phoned to ask how to make an omelette!

It really isn't kind to keep kids reliant on parents.

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Imnotcheap
Imnotcheap1 month ago

I have heard one person say her daughter who got a a at GCSE cooking had to ask how to make omlet Lynibis

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Lynibis
Lynibis
Original Poster
1 month ago

Imnotcheap that might have been where I heard it if you posted a comment lol!

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EarlyWorm
EarlyWorm1 month ago

I don’t trust mine with a cooker yet 😱, but I have been teaching them spreadsheets, home finances - just trying to get them to appreciate the value of money in general really.

We sat down and costed dinner one night, how much each item was and worked out our daily budget from our weekly shopping allowance.

They are already well trained in spotting bargains for me and clipping coupons.

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Lynibis
Lynibis
Original Poster
1 month ago

That's really good. Finance is a really important thing to learn or they risk being in debt if they cannot budget when they have their own home.

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Imnotcheap
Imnotcheap1 month ago

They could help prepare food without using cooker

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RegularComper90
RegularComper901 month ago

I do not have any kids, but if and when I do I shall certainly be teaching them those things you've mentioned. I think it's important that children do their fair share of chores as it helps to prepare them for when they are older and face the outside world independently.

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Lynibis
Lynibis
Original Poster
1 month ago

It is not easy but they will thank you in the long run. Every Sunday morning my two boys had to clean and tidy their bedrooms from top to bottom. Polish, hoover, clean inside window etc and have uniform ready for school on monday. It was invaluable experience for when the oldest did a stint in the RN. I was in the Navy too so I guess that's why I was a bit tough as it was really strict when I joined. My stepmum was quite strict too but I loved her to bits.

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PhilipMarc
PhilipMarc1 month ago

I've been hanging around with boomers, and there's always stuff I've been learning with them. Even some useless stuff. lol

They get drunk a lot, so the more I get used to wine and beer, the less effect it has on me.

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tracisinclair01
tracisinclair0130 days ago

I try to reach them the basics. My eldest daughter is keen to learn and my youngest daughter sometimes. My middle daughter thinks she a pampered Princess. She tries to fob chores to her sisters. You ask her to do something like make her bed she just glares at you. She's 9 I'm dreading her as a teen. Even my son who is 3 helps. He likes to hoover. And wipe woodwork and surfaces. Granted I have to go behind him, but he does a pretty decent job. I keep telling her that these chores are for her own good when she is older, but she ain't Impressed.

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Lynibis
Lynibis
Original Poster
30 days ago

I don't mean to be rude but who is the parent? It sounds like she rules the roost and it must make the others resentful if she gets away with it. In that situation I would be depriving my child of treats and luxuries if they did not do their share. They soon tow the line once they know they can't get away with it with a glare lol.

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Ann1984
Ann198430 days ago

A tip that's works for me is the WiFi gets switched off and the house work is done in under a hour. But now they know I mean business I don't need to do that anymore. Even if it only stays clean that day I have made them work

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tracisinclair01
tracisinclair0130 days ago

She doesn't get away with it. We have reward system in place. She realises at end of month her siblings get and she doesn't. She doesn't seem to care though. It drives me barmy. It doesn't help that her sisters do things for her when I'm otherwise occupied with my three year old. She going to get a huge shock in life if she keeps it up.

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Lynibis
Lynibis
Original Poster
30 days ago

I can see it's a problem. Maybe you can get the other three onside? I do sympathise because we all know people who feel they are entitled and expect everyone else to run around after them even when adult. I do have ideas but don't think they would go down too well on here lol.

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tracisinclair01
tracisinclair0130 days ago

Thanks for everyone suggestions. Will try some hopefully she starting pulling her weight without it being a chore itself to get her to help a bit.

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AgnesFaludi
AgnesFaludi29 days ago

I think we all do...yes

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Lynibis
Lynibis
Original Poster
29 days ago

If that were so there wouldn't be so many youngsters going out into the world unable to budget, make a simple meal, or otherwise look after themselves properly.

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AgnesFaludi
AgnesFaludi29 days ago

Lynibis we only can teach values what we learnt, some parents never learn anything, so what can they teach?

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