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Is it possible to love somebody again after feeling like you're in a loveless marriage?

ZahraBux
1 month ago
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TheChimp
TheChimp1 month ago

If you're talking about the same person that you're married to at the moment, I doubt it.

I would have never have fallen back in love my ex.

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Ann1984
Ann19841 month ago

There was a reason you left each other. If one cheated once a cheat always a cheat. Plus that would cause argument after argument.

if was over something silly then yes it could work.

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Moonstone22
Moonstone221 month ago

I have started falling for my ex's again more than once throughout my life but my partner just ended up doing the same things that upset me before. I do think love can grow again but it's whether it can last that is the hardest thing to work through

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Imnotcheap
Imnotcheap1 month ago

It is possible but unless something has changed your risking heartbreak

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ashleyherts
ashleyherts23 days ago

love is something that is in your heart that can never leave. you have to find the love. if your partner is a cheat it is hard to say whether he will change or not. but my husband cheated and we got back together. i felt like we were in a loveless marriage for 4 years untill I had enough and left. upon me leaving I saw a significant change in his behaviour. he was more caring understanding loving.. he showed me he cared. so I took him back after a month and things have been great since.. its been 6 years. I hope this helps

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ZahraBux
ZahraBux
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14 days ago

ashleyherts thank you ๐Ÿ˜Š

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Lynibis
Lynibis14 days ago

No

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TheChimp
TheChimp14 days ago

Lynibis Straight to the point, but correct.

No other explanation was needed ๐Ÿ‘

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Lynibis
Lynibis14 days ago

TheChimp lol I usually talk and write too much!

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ashleyherts
ashleyherts11 days ago

it looks as if we all have a difference in opinions. i am talking from experience. for me after seeing his changes and taking into consideration that we have 2 kids together, I decided to let my guard down. The bond was always there as we were actually really good together and we had always shared everything i just couldn't feel the love. it was like he had forgotten about me and I also felt I wasn't in love with him anymore as he made me feel insecure, unloved, lonely and most of all disgusted by his behaviour. the fact that he could see another woman after I gave him 2 beautiful children i was very hurt. I felt i deserved more. I knew I deserved more. in all honesty it wasn't a pleasant time for any of us. but I had to know my feelings for him. I did miss him, I knew I once loved him and my 2 children do adore their father. when leaving he turned very nasty to begin with but soon after sorted himself out. I think when he realised how far we had gone he knew it was make or break. I have always been a very paranoid person and I used to watch everything he did, where he went and stuff but I couldn't do it anymore so when he came back I decided to take a very different approach. I realised I hadn't made it easy for him either, so i tried to trust him. I had lost all respect for him so i tried to give him some respect. it was a upward struggle but you need to know you want it. when he came back we discussed what we needed to do and it was as if he was a different man. he says I'm a different woman now. I saw a side to him I had never seen before. and till today he treats me well and i still feel the love. we also had a very damaged relationship and that never helped us to prosper in the first 4 years. so in my opinion zahrabux yes it is very possible. I have experienced it.

sorry for the long message lol ๐Ÿ˜†

I really hope this helps you x

I happy to listen if you want to share your experience ๐Ÿ˜Š

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ZahraBux
ZahraBux
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8 days ago

ashleyherts thank you for taking the time out to share your personal story, I really appreciate it. Sounds like you went through word for word what I have been for the last 5 years. I have finally grown the courage to get rid and ask for a divorce though, it's hard when children are involved and too scared to give yet, another chance! X

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Aashleyherts
Aashleyherts7 days ago

ZahraBux hey your most welcome. I just thought sharing my experience may help someone else out there. What did make it easier for me was that I knew he was a good man, he loved and cared for me and our children, he looked after us well, my family adored him, and I tried to remember the good about him.

(Although there was so much bad)

I see him in my children everyday and I knew they would be a constant reminder of him. I had some counselling at the time which did help me as I could tell her how I would watch him and make life difficult. And how he had cheated and made me feel. She advised me if I ever wanted a relationship to work that we needed trust. And that was the problem. She also said if I felt anything towards him in envy I should let it go, So I could work out what was actually important to me and to give our family a fair chance. I decided to give it another go because it made life easier, but also because I felt i gave him some harsh love. I was always quite cruel to him. We had our differences, we set them straight and I did forgive him and learnt to trust him. I had to soften my heart for him. I didn't give him a chance to love me I guess ๐Ÿค”

Mind you there was a stage I couldn't stand him, but that soon passed. as I said you have to want it. if you feel like your in a similar situation as I was, and he has a good nature, then i say why not give it shot. I know it's scary. Constantly thinking will he ever make me feel like this again, will I ever want and love him again, but it's also very upsetting when life gets torn apart but time can heal. one thing I realised through all this was its never nice being hurt and feeling away. But rather than hurting ourselves and everyone around us, we should concentrate on the love. I thank God that our relationship is strong and my children are happy and i still feel the love.

Who would have known my husband actually is a very passionate man. ๐Ÿฅฐ

I really hope it goes well for you whichever way you decide to go.

good luck x

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TheChimp
TheChimp7 days ago

Aashleyherts If my partner went with anyone else, she'd be out the door. No ifs, No buts.

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Aashleyherts
Aashleyherts7 days ago

TheChimp well your not as forgiving as some of us are then. I did feel like that hence why I left him. But true love always returns ๐Ÿคจ

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TheChimp
TheChimp7 days ago

Aashleyherts But what stops him from doing again? ๐Ÿค”

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Aashleyherts
Aashleyherts7 days ago

TheChimp a life lesson. He was out the door. and knows now I will not put up with it. if I ever feel like that again then he will be gone for good. I keep my fingers crossed he actually learnt from it all. There is a lot to consider aswell but mainly family. ๐Ÿ‘

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ashleyherts
ashleyherts11 days ago

zahrabux your welcome x

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