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On Loose Women today Denise Welch said something quite profound, although I think she was quoting someone else.

If you have children: 'You are only ever as happy as your unhappiest child'.

That is so true. Both my sons are in their 40s but the moment they are having a bad time, illness or any other trial or tribulation my contentment (happiness if you will) is shattered.

No wonder we never find true happiness.

Lynibis
29 days ago
What do you think of this?
MeestairChrees
MeestairChrees29 days ago

Well that sounds incredibly depressing. Yay future with kids.

Maybe distract yourself with things that make you happy.

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Lynibis
Lynibis
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29 days ago

Well it is very hard to be happy if the kids you love are miserable. Addicted to drugs, gambling, alcohol or going through a divorce or being bullied at school. Happily I have never been through any really bad stuff with mine so am mostly content, but I do get upset if they argue or fall out.

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Pjran
Pjran29 days ago

As a caring parent I constantly think about what’s going on in their lives. You can’t switch off from problems but I do count my lucky stars as things could be worse.

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MrsCraig
MrsCraig28 days ago

I've heard that saying a few times. As you already know our world was shattered with our sons illness. It starts the moment they are born. Your emotions are linked into what is going on with them. Even something as small as them falling and hurting themselves, you feel the immediate urge to make it better.

I know that when we were going through our tough time, both sets of parents were anxious and heartbroken for us.

I never really understood the phrase until I had children.

I don't think it is a depressing phrase, just one that reminds you that as a parent you put your childs happiness first and do what you can to ensure that happiness.

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Lynibis
Lynibis
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27 days ago

I can't even begin to know how I would have coped with serious illness. As you know mine are grown men in their 40s but I still worry when they are unwell and find myself lecturing them on looking after themselves. I had them when I was really young so absolutely dread the thought that they may predecease me, even though I know that could happen at any age.

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MrsCraig
MrsCraig26 days ago

Lynibis we just got on with it, because we had to but it was something that was always there, you were constantly watching his breathing to make sure it wasn't too fast or slow, checking to make sure he didn't go blue, didn't get too cold, was taking enough milk to put on weight etc. Even now when he gets ill, for example when he had a bug at Christmas time, my husband has to remind me he has been through worse! I don't think it matters what age they are, you always worry when they are ill.

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dholly39
dholly3926 days ago

i home educate my children, i found they are much happier now. they had a lot off issues in the previous school and i felt sad all the time knowing they weren't happy. so i understand this

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