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I'm constantly running around, and becoming quite overwhelmed with everything I'm expected to fit in. I know I need to stop and unwind (I've took to gardening and model making) however by stopping to enjoy doing these I them find myself behind in all the things that were stressing me before.

How do people get around this?

Anyone have any ideas to help/overcome this?

vixe80
2 weeks ago
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MrsCraig

I make a list of what needs to be done. I then prioritise the items on the list. I give myself a set time each day to get them done and if I don't manage then I just say it can be done tomorrow. I find the only time I get really stressed with lots to do is the run up to Christmas.

If you don't look after yourself, physically and mentally, then you won't be able to get anything done. So take the time to destress.

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vixe80

MrsCraig you are so right, and I try so hard to look after myself. Just never seems enough time me in a day. I like your list with time limits. I will try this. Thanks

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MrsCraig

vixe80 it definitely feels as if there isn't enough time some days. I just remind myself that it can always be done tomorrow. Even just sitting down for a cup of tea helps me relax.

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JLouM

Plan everything. I use old fashioned wall calendars and desk diaries to keep track of everything. You can get some with appointment times too so you can allocate each task to an amount of time you will spend on it. Include walking by beach or in park!!

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MelissaLee1

.Switch off your Pc.Go out alone and leave your phone at home.Walk in green spaces and/or by rivers.Poodle around shops.Get a train to somewhere different.Power down for a day.

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eyeballkerry

I used to be like this, had four children and never found time for myself. Basically I had to wait until they grew up. I also took up gardening and used to hide in the green house pottering for ages. I now go for walks everyday. Yes, stuff needs going but I delegate more now.

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vixe80

eyeballkerry I'm glad I'm not the only one to never fi d time with children around.

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EmmaWright762

Write your to do list and just pick one at a time. Don't start a second job until the first is completed. Set an alarm if need be so that you stop for a cuppa or a snack. Never be afraid to ask for help. It may surprise you to know that people have a need for the opportunity to show they care as much as we need their help 😉😊☕

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vixe80

EmmaWright762 thank you for the advise of asking for help. As a single parent it is hard to find help.

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HEDGEHOGS

I like to make to do lists and prioritize what should be done first, if I get to tick a couple off great and I re write a new one the next day, some days I don't look at it but at least it's out of my head and down on a piece of paper.

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vixe80

HEDGEHOGS I have now got a list on the go. Don't think I'll write new one once bits are done though, as I like to see I've progressed and some complete.

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Jerseydrew

Honestly I don't not term time anyway. Sounds awful but I've so much with work which is pressured and home. My weekends are me drained and exhausted and trying to clean

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vixe80

Jerseydrew that is exactly how I feel each weekend. So glad I'm not the only one who feels like this.

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Jerseydrew

vixe80 thankfully schools have holidays. It's needed. Anyone who says schools have to many holidays haven't worked in one. Staff are wrecked. I often spend my spare time sorting stuff out for work. Stuff I shouldn't be doing. I'm only support staff but work my holidays for the kids because it's stuff needed for them. I get resources for the playground and for my interventions so I can get my kids to learn.

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kitty88uk

I find that listening 🎧 to music 🎼 and singing 🎤 along to the songs helps me to destress but everyone is different. Maybe 🤔 try reading some books 📚 or go out for a walk around where you live and makes a what to do list 📝 will help as a checklist of what needs to be done. Take your time and don’t push yourself into doing everything all at once!

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vixe80

kitty88uk music may be a way to go. I have purchased a " to do list" notepad. And plan to start making a list tomorrow

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kitty88uk

vixe80 music 🎼 always helps to destress as you can sing 🎤 along to the lyrics and dance 💃🏻 too lol 😆 I just sing haha 😆 that’s great taking notes 📝

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vixe80

kitty88uk I'm sure my neighbours will love me still after hearing my singing voice with the windows open in this lovely weather 😂😂

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vixe80

Thank you to everyone who has posted on this thread. I already feel better, relived I'm not the only one who is feeling this way and some brilliant ideas of how to help. So glad I posted it. Thanks again

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suevernon1968

I have loads of colouring in books. But - if you can - then delegate some stuff to others that live with you. If you do a lot of favours for others then learn to say no sometimes too.

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vixe80

suevernon1968 I am not good at delegatingor saying no to others. You have found two faults, I will try to do both. Thanks

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Pjran

Ask one of your friends and take it in turns to have the kids for a day. The kids will love it and you can catch up on your chore, then sit and relax.

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vixe80

Pjran that's a great idea. Thanks

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Pjran

vixe80 My friend would take them all for a long walk. I would cook bolognaise for their return then feed all 4 kids.

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dawarwick

When the weather is fine, try to find at least 30mins to sit in your garden or local open space. Sit, relax, close your eyes and focus on the sounds of nature around you

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vixe80

dawarwick that is exactly what I've been doing when weather allows. I feel great afterwards, but then end up even more behind with chores etc! However it does completely destress me.

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MrsCraig

Was just wondering if you had managed to find some techniques to help you and hoping that you are feeling a little less stressed and more relaxed.

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