How Do You Deal with Rude People?
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How do you deal with rude people in real life and online- is your approach different? I tend to ignore rude people in real life if its directed as myself as it makes me really uncomfortable
I would probably tell them to F off in either circumstance 
Someone has to be really rude for me to even know their being rude to me though, im not very good at noticing slight things (usually after i replay a situation nimerous times in my head later i realise) 
Although many people think im rude and many people have accused me of being rude to my face when it was never my intention. (Im pretty sure i have ASD and am in the process of getting diagnosed, this is one of the traits). I am very direct and say what i think so unless i have swore to you then im not intending to be rude 
I‘ve always just ignored it (unless i am at work where i have to be professional) because i dont like confrontation... my partner gets annoyed with me coz he would rather say something and start an argument.. I get embarrassed, say nothing and rant about it later instead.. e.g. I was waiting for a woman to put her trolley back in Aldi because she needed her pound back and there was no trolleys left (I only had a token so couldn’t give it to her), so I stood behind her waiting for a couple of minutes, before an older woman went around the trolley section, darted in front of me and took it, without even acknowledging me (I’m 6ft1, so hard to miss and it was very obvious I was waiting for the trolley) so I didn’t say anything but was internally raging..
Alllllriiighty Then!
Back in the day- me watching from my car after returning my trolley when others just pushed theirs away into the disabled bays. I feel you sarahgreen15
I give them a wide berth - not always easy but it is so much better than letting rip. You weigh up their comments and mentally confirm that they are idiots then, if it's online, you avoid them like the plague. People who try to manipulate conversations with narrow-minded insults are probably getting their jollies from the continued outrage of others. Step back and stop their enjoyment. In person is a much easier situation - polite sarcasm and lots of nodding always works as it tells the eejit that they aren't making headway. Having said all of that I'm pretty easy going but won't be sat on - life is far too short to be bullied.
Depends on the circumstances. I had a receptionist be really rude and cheeky to me last week when I was visiting my son in the ICU for the first time. My son had had a 12 hour operation a d I was anxious to see him. She was so rude, cheeky and patronising. I informed her that I was here to see my son after a life saving operation and walked away. I informed the senior nurse who dealt with it very quickly. It transpired we were not the only ones she had been rude to that day.
I tend to ignore it online and just delete/hide the comment or mute/block the person depending on how aggressive and rude the comment is.
I know we are all human and can have bad days but I also have to work in an environment where people are distraught so see it as part of my role to excuse it- to a point so im glad this woman was dealt with as you really dont need it at a time like that. I hope your son is doing well 
OneeyedRaven Ah! I see now - your job brings you into contact with people who see you as their sponge of hurt and rage. That really is unfortunate because the people who are rude and abuse tend not to be capable of seeing the hurt they leave in their wake. Seriously now, make sure you find some quiet 'me time' to clear your head because constant attitude and rudeness can get to you and make you very low.
angemski spot on. There is no excuse for hurting another unless they have done something really terrible. The other day in Sainsbury's the cashier carried on a conversation with a colleague throughout scanning my big shop. Earlier I waited ages at customer service to return something. When I got my receipt it said go online and tell of your experience, great I thought, but by time I got home I had remembered the twice in 8 years someone complained about me and how awful it made me feel. It played on my mind for days and made me miserable as I really felt it was unjustified.
Lynibis I know! I would be so hurt if I received a complaint but then putting up with bad service and rudeness shouldnt be the cost. On the other hand yesterday I had someone go out of their way for me to retrieve a lost order I could tell for them it was no big deal but I was genuinely touched so I wrote an email of commendation to their head office - I hope it made them smile
OneeyedRaven good on you. Wouldn't it be nice if people praised as often as they criticised/complained?
I understand she might have had a bad day, that's fine, but it was one of the toughest mornings of my life and it was not needed. I was not rude to her, even when she was rude to us. I was anxious to see my son, so at the time I ignored it. Whilst my mother in law spoke to her about it, again she was not rude, just explained it wasn't necessary. Our son is being discharged in a few days, he has done amazingly well.
MrsCraig Oh dear I hope you didnt think I was defending her- totally in agreement with you. Was highlighting the fact that bad days or not usually when you work in those environments someone walking through the door is having a far worse day than you, and she should remember that- I always try to. So glad to hear that hope he continues to thrive 
OneeyedRaven oh I knew you weren't defending her, I was just explaining how we reacted to it. You are stressed enough going into the icu without having to worry about how you will be spoken to
had a freind who is same size as me yet constantly mentioned im fat so i told her im on medication for cancer and cant help my weight it annoyed me
why. just why would you behave like that glad you said something and hope you are well I bet she felt ashamed for the rest of her week I would
Should have got a tape measure out and said 'come on then, let's see who is bigger'. I bet that would have stopped her nonsense!
If it's in a work capacity I just keep smiling then I will politely excuse myself and walk away but if I'm shopping or something and people are rude then I speak my mind and ask them if they honestly think it's ok to talk to people like that .
I usually stay calm and polite, then when and if they rethink the situation they will feel badly and learn from it.
Reject them from my life, and ignore them, it's not worth lowering to their level as that's all they know. Think it's not even their fault it's just the level of consciousness that their at.
Ignorance is bliss when it comes to rude people. Ignore long enough and they go away
In real life I call them out..they might not even realise how rude they're acrual being and thy need to know x
I try to ignore rude people but it's hard.I usually answer back to defend myself
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