Have You Discussed Your Passing with Your Adult Children?
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My younger son felt uncomfortable but soon got into the spirit (excuse the pun) when i made him laugh with my thoughts and attitude. They were both pleased i had told them what i want and we had a good laugh talking about my ashes, the music, no flowers or expense for anyone but charitable donations if they feel so inclined.
I have written it all down and put it in with my will and feel happy knowing there will be no disputes or disagreements.
Lots of people think making a will is tempting fate but i have the opposite view having made my first one in my 30s.
Yes I have discussed this with my older children because I have a progressive illness, and most importantly I have made a will
martinlufc5637 I am sorry to hear that and wish you well. I hope like me, you have peace of mind knowing your wishes are known to your children.
Lynibis I have piece of mind, I didn't need to make a will, I don't have money grabbing ungrateful children thank god, I've seen family's torn apart because a will wasn't made, when their only interest was to grab whatever they could, no need to be sorry, it is what it is
Yes - as i have incurable cancer. Ive made them all take their pick of the jewllery now so they they don’t associate it with me being dead.
However- i did get A comment off a couple of them earlier this year. ‘You are far too nutty to be that ill mum !’
My parents and my mother in law have both spoken to us about it. They all have a will and it is stated in there what is happen at their funeral. My parents funeral is all paid for. Granny was the same, she had it all organised and paid for a good 10 years before she passed. It gave her peace of mind. My husband has told me what he wants for his funeral too. I've not thought about my own one though.
When my daughter still lived at home, she wanted to know how much longer I was expected to live, which items in the house were of any real value and if she was in my will. I told her she had to move out when she was 22 years old, and she hasn't spoken to me since.
I always feel uncomfortable talking about it my dad said that he wanted a pure cremation and I've told him no we are not having that it's up to us he did sort out life insurance tho he's got 2 now
I talk about it with my kids in a laughing manner and we all joke but they get the main point of what I’m saying though. I’ve talked about it with my mum and dad but they both have wills and mum has told us what each of us can have from the house. Knowing dad he will have letter with all his wishes wrote down and left with my oldest brother cos he’s always so organised.
I’ve discussed it in passing with my parents but never had a sit down conversation. It is something we need to do but i don’t really want to think about a time when they won’t be here anymore.
Its not an easy conversation, but my wife being diagnosed with cancer a few years ago kind of made it necessary. We just sat together over a meal and a bottle of wine and chatted normally. Easier when they are a bit older.
I don’t have my own children but my parents are elderly and have a will but only discussed inheritance but not funeral arrangements. It’s always difficult to to talk about and they don’t like thinking about it. Also that part is not in the will so they say. I suppose I will have to deal with that at the time. I have a sister too so will probably sort something between us what we think at the time.
I have tried t0 talk and said once this conversation has happened we don't need to do it again, it's a good talk to have.
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