Loss at Christmas
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Hello, is anyone celebrating Christmas without someone special this year. Any ideas or little touches to make the Christmas period special for anyone grieving at Christmas
Grieving continues throughout your life when a loved one dies. Raise a glass or mention their name in a conversation so they’re not forgotten.
I lost my beautiful Mum suddenly 11 years ago on Christmas Day, I always feel it's harder during the festive holiday, miss her dreadfully 
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The first Christmas without my Mum, which was during Covid, I got each of my sister's a Christmas decoration in her memory
I didn't want one, which said Mum as it would have been too sad, as it was we all cried.
My younger sister got us a miniature picture of my Mum, in a heart frame Christmas decoration.
Prior to my Mum passing, I thought these were morbid, but it was a comfort as she was/is still a part of our Christmas.
Also, we shared memories of her and the things she did to make Christmas special when were growing up. Sometimes people don't talk about the person who has passed. Grief is different for everyone, so you just need to let the person know that you are there for them
Yep, we lost a family member a couple of months ago.
Think we are all just going to grit our teeth and hope the day is over asap.
blacklabrador Sorry for your loss, each of the first are always difficult, but surprisingly for me the big events were not the worst, as in away you are expecting the grief and are mentally prepared for it.
For me, It's the odd times, when you think I must tell so and so this and you realise they are no longer there that it hits you .....
Just be kind to each other and realise that people deal with grief in a different way, someone who is being extra jolly, is still hurting but may have a different coping mechanism.
beccatavender Thank you for that.
Yep it feels weird that events like Dads Birthday (6th December) weren't nearly as tough as we feared.
We'll prop each other up as best we can.
Yes, my brother in law (45) died suddenly in July, and it has completely broken everyone's hearts. This will be the 1st Christmas without him. I think it's going to be very difficult but we just have to put on a brave face I think.
I've actually just been and bought a Christmas card for my mother & father in law - it was so hard trying to find a suitable card without all this "Christmas is a happy time of year" or "Christmas is a time to share with loved ones" - I just went with a plain one in the end.
My partner lost her mum just before Christmas she always lays a spot for them both at the Christmas Dinner table
I lost my lovely mum on Christmas day 2021. So this will be my first Christmas without her beautiful smile lighting up the room. I haven't done a thing for Christmas this year. I'll be going to the cemetery with my sister. I will light a candle with her favourite fragrance . I miss her every second of every day.
My husband died Oct 2020, My Grandfather Dec ,My Father January. Different years but all close and fresh as new mown grass in my thoughts .I continue to pray and raise a glass at Christmas and will continue to do so as long as I am able. Faith is my fortress.
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