Would You Married Your Partner if They Didn't Have a Stable Income?
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Was just reading something on Facebook and some of the comments on there are madness in my opinion I thought the whole point of marriage was for love? Not money I know it plays are part but money is not everything clearly some some of the comments on there money is everything to some people what's your thoughts?
My wife was my childhood sweetheart, we had nothing, people today are obsessed with money and lifestyle today
martinlufc5637 maybe it's just the way we was raised because we had nothing and still got nothing lol but we have each other and a loving family I couldn't ask for anything more
Leannexxx that's right, when you've have nothing, you appreciate everything and each other more
I don't feel money is everything but as ive gotten older security is of utmost importance to me, though literally nothing in life is guaranteed to last a lifetime
Pinkspirit i can understand where you coming from but if there working and trying to help as much as they can shouldn't that be enough everyone goes through hard times and they should be able to rely on those closest to them to pick them up not kick them while there down
Yes and I did!! We met as teenagers at school. We were best friends first and have gone through a lot together.
When we got married my contract had ended and I was looking for a new job. Husband has a stable job so we could manage. Luckily I found one quickly. I stopped working when our son was born, numerous reasons why. I've gone back now, part time, but we managed on one income for 4 years. It didn't matter to either of us. Yes security is important but we did what was needed to manage our money so we could pay the bills. Our money is joint money, doesn't matter who is earning it, it is ours.
Not married but known partner since 91 when we worked at same Psychiatric Nursing Home ,him as a Carer & myself as a Housekeeper & became friends. We have been together 26.5 years,one daughter, we managed on one wage for eight years as the agreement was that I would stay home & bring our child up while partner went to work which I did.My partner was on shift 3 nights a week & worked day hours,money was good & he spent as much time with his girl as he could,reading,playing & taking her & I out different places. Later he had his contract bought out,by that time I was working again. Fast forward & I joined his company almost 5 years ago as a Support Worker working under different management & other end of Sheffield from him, partner has worked for the company 30.5 years.
We earn just above the Living Wage,NO overtime for working weekends which we do regularly..
We manage our money,have the odd night out or meal out,we have been through a lot together..
Yes some people ARE money oriented but not us,as long as we can put our daughter through University we are happy.University has been achieved as my partner saved monthly with AXA Sunlife & got £24,211 for the £16,000 he invested when he was earning decent money when daughter was a tiny tot,the rest of her Radiography course fees we have paid between us & have helped her with anything she needed..
janphoenix51 I just felt a lump in my throat reading about you and your family. I just love the story of how you both managed over the years and have a daughter and helped her out as well. Congratulate to all of you.
jam45 ,Thank uou ,don't get me wrong my partner worked long hours but the money as a Support Worker used to be good,he saved what he could,we never spent over our limits,never had debt,didn't always have the latest gadgets. These days Support Workers are on very little money but we manage,we have been mortgage free for a few years now so that's a worry we don't have although work needs doing on our ex council home...
jam45 ...Yes we will,we aren't extravagant ,so we will get by,we have a bit of savings..
For richer for poorer,in sickness and health....aye of course.If you meet someone in a good position in life and they then fall ill and lose their job do you stop loving them?I married for love not posh things.Some folk just want a meal ticket I spose.
MelissaLee1 ....Partner,daughter & I despair of those shallow people..My sister has been married to my brother in law for 35 years,been together since they were in their early twenties..My sister has Rheumatoid Arthritis,diagnosed at 45,she's 60 next year,worked for Co op 43 years in various roles including Assistant Manager, helped her Manager doing some of his work so much he used to share his Christmas bonus with her! My brother in law has worked all his life til he had a Stroke just over a year ago.My sister & brother in law just get by on very little money now,she hasn't abandoned him cos he can't work,she's with him all the way as he recovers from his Stroke as are all our family..
Hopefully they will be able to celebrate their 60th birthdays together, brother in law's is April & my sister's is May.
janphoenix51 good for them clearly it's because of love I hope they have many years to come happy together
janphoenix51 Sounds like you're a tight knit caring family with all your priorities rightly placed.God bless you all for loving each other through the rough patches.
MelissaLee1 ...Thank you yes I think we are close..My oldest sister has been married 35 year,,my little sister married her childhood sweetheart together since they were 17 now 56, my little brother married his childhood sweetheart & baby sister has been married for 21 years ,my partner & I have been together for 26.5 years...
We are a Catholic family although I'm the only one who still goes to Mass & that's only when I can go.
I agree with you. Marriage shouldn't be about money. For me marriage is a chance to celebrate with your loved ones that you have found someone you are in love with and there in love with you. Who you are committed to and there committed to you and have been since you started a serious relationship. But unfortunately I don't know if any one else feels this way. I find everybody wants to not be committed. I don't get this to me if your really in love, you shouldn't be interested in any body else. I've never married and this is why.
For me, marriage is for love but money is for survival. So no, I wouldn't marry if my partner didn't have a stable income 
Yes because if you truly love someone it shouldn't matter what they do or don't have
Marriage Isnt about Money, Its about Love. You dont marry that someone otherwise. Its not what you got In your Bank Accounts. Its about two Individuals. You make do with what you got. I never went without as a Kid. I never had designer clothes or trainers. My Dad worked hard In a Factory. My Mam was a housewife. People nowadays are obsessed with Money. Greed. No matter how much you got or how little you have. Money cant buy you love or happiness.
I guess it all depends upon what’s expected of me. If she wanted me to support her then it would be a problem. If she didn’t have a stable income but lived within her means i see no issue with that and would happily pay for things like holidays etc
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