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From Mentally Strong to Brain Gone Wrong

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Like most people I have been through tough times but always stayed strong and come through the other side.

Today, however, I feel as if I am going mad living in a world gone mad, full of mad, weird people.

Has no one stopped to wonder why there has been such a surge in mental health issues over the last decade. All you have to do is sit quietly and think of the enormous amount of change we have had to cope with:

Kids addicted to tech, minority groups insisting we all put their needs first, covid, our beautiful planet terminally ill, tv and news outlets peddling clickbait items that worry or outrage, and of course the things that have always taken place...rape, murder, violence, thieving, disasters, abuse, prejudice, misogyny....I could fill pages with all the doom and gloom.

Then we have the stuff on daytime tv which makes you doubt your sanity.....I married a ghost, I breastfeed my boyfriend, I have threesomes with God.......I want to hold my head and scream out loud, why do they give these people air time?

Lately it is all I can do to leave the house for work, rest of time I can't be bothered going anywhere or doing anything.

Yes, this is why mental issues are so rife, as I can't be the only one in the world feeling overwhelmed by this hell on earth. Mental illness is another subject entirely.

I am sorry to add to the negativity but how can we, as human beings, stop this descent into chaos?

Lynibis
4 weeks ago
What do you think of this?
telmel
telmel4 weeks ago

These are my thoughts too L , you are not alone in realising the state of the world, in my younger days we didnt seem to have all these issues, we never worried about fashion or status either, which is a big thing with kids nowadays

Add this to all you have mentioned and its no surprise we all feel as if we have the weight of the world on our shoulders , and it is worse for the youngsters, they have many years ahead of them and they must be wondering what the future holds , you can understand how they quickly get depressed

I wish someone would wave a magic wand and rectify all that is going wrong in this world

But all we can do is try to keep our sanity by helping each other as much as we can , ingest humour into situations and keep our fingers crossed somehow things will get better

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Lynibis
Lynibis
Original Poster
4 weeks ago

Thank you for your measured and thoughtful response. It is good to know I am not the only one who can see this situation.

I wish I could be one of the people who go through life not worrying about it all and living life selfishly and not caring. Deep thinkers always feel these things more, and I have plenty of thinking time!

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telmel
telmel4 weeks ago

Lynibis I discuss the ills of the world every day L as you have done here , its like a release valve to stop feelings building up too much

I have stopped watching the news on tv now, although i do read it online, , i find it less depressing this way as 99% of it is bad news and it hits home more on the tv

When the big players like China, Russia and the US wont play ball it all seems futile

We need to take a good hard look at ourselves and the destruction being caused , what politicians are doing now is way too little and late

I often think what would happen if we had to leave this earth because humanity had destroyed it and found a new planet suitable to live on

How long would it be before that was also made unlivable ?

But i still think something can be done , we have to believe this to keep our sanity

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MelissaLee1963
MelissaLee19633 weeks ago

I agree that a good sense of humour helps us alongT

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telmel
telmel3 weeks ago

MelissaLee1963 Humour and laughter are a great tonic M , i dont believe in the saying 'act your age' , why should you , it doesnt make sense anyway, if you are acting your age you are performing a pretence , its better to behave the way you feel is right for you , not how others expect you to

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lilyflower
lilyflower4 weeks ago

I think it's time a lot of parents/grandparents started to say NO. No you don't need a new Playstation 5 you only got a 4 last year. You'll grow out of tracksuit from Adsa just as quick as an Adidas one. Sweets/crisps are for treats. Your turn to wash the dishes/hoover etc. Limit technology time and play some family games, read to younger kids rather than handing them a phone/tablet to keep them quiet. Talk to them. Try cooking rather than sending out for something and see how much they save, knock on it takes the stress out of not having enough money, which seems to be a constant problem.

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Lynibis
Lynibis
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4 weeks ago

I totally agree. I started writing a book on those very things a while back and titled it Killing Them Softly. In the guise of love we are often helping kids along the road to mental issues, bad health and even suicide, not to mention selfishness and general anti social behaviour.

I reprimanded 3 sisters who were recently being unkind and taking the Mickey out of my driver who is partially deaf. I told them in no uncertain terms what I thought of their behaviour without shouting, swearing etc. By the time we got them home their demeanour had totally changed. They said goodbye and thank you, one even said sorry as she stepped off the mini bus. Believe it or not kids WANT boundaries and discipline.

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telmel
telmel4 weeks ago

I think its a double edged sword for families L

People know it is wrong to spoil the kids , but with everything going on around in the world , and the future generations are the ones that are going to be most affected, people want to give the kids what they want to keep them happy now ,knowing how hard it will be for them in the future

By keeping them happy they think it can help alleviate depression , but this in turn can spoil them

So parents and grandparents are between the devil and the deep blue sea, they cannot do right for wrong

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Ann1984
Ann19844 weeks ago

I understand our you feel and am only in my thirty’s and the world has gone crazy. I so wish could go back to my younger days without care in the world. Trouble with a lot of it today is parents are scared of there own children. Girls running off with ransoms they met off Snapchat worrying parents to death fear of letting your children out. Hundreds of plastic bought at Xmas for it to be binned within 6 months. For the insane headlines in press don’t even let me go there the freaks. I hate to go outside in evening and with dark nights I will not go out after 5pm

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Lynibis
Lynibis
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4 weeks ago

I cringe when I see teens on tv bad mouthing their parents who stand there gaping and don't say a word. I was single mum to two boys and cannot remember them ever giving me more than a bit of mild cheek.

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Ann1984
Ann19844 weeks ago

Lynibis you definitely don’t won’t to watch the mtv shows then I would die of shame if my kids done what they do on tv

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Ann1984
Ann19844 weeks ago

Just a thought and I don’t think many realise this but the young generation one day just think will be running the government I hope my days are long gone before that time

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Lynibis
Lynibis
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4 weeks ago

Let's hope the right ones stand for office!

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tumblespots
tumblespots3 weeks ago

Lynibis Your comment made me think of the present government. (I'll be banned for saying this) I used to love watching Hugh Laurie & Stephen Fry in Jeeves & Wooster then one day it finally dawned on me that I was watching the present government - in action. Children in men's bodies. We just don't have good role models any more. It's no wonder the world is going mad with them at the top.

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Lynibis
Lynibis
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3 weeks ago

tumblespots you are right though. Role models seem to be influencers, football players (some are good like Marcus Rashford), celebrities, and no one bats an eye any more if they take drugs, drink too much or are promiscuous. I would say children in adult bodies as some women are just as bad......Katie price comes to mind.

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tumblespots
tumblespots3 weeks ago

Lynibis It's a sad, bad and mad world!

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SilverSurfer
SilverSurfer3 weeks ago

tumblespots out of curiosity who did deem as a good role model?

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davey184
davey1844 weeks ago

Lynibis. You are certainly not alone. I have suffered on and off with depression and anxiety all my life. Usually triggered by to many bad things happening at once. I was taken to hospital at the beginning of September. I had a major breakdown (my 3rd). My sense of reality had completely gone and I had bouts of complete memory loss and severe anxiety. If I never had an understanding partner and teenage son, I am certain I would not be here today. I always come out the other side eventually, but it is a climb, that gets harder and harder each time. 😰

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Lynibis
Lynibis
Original Poster
4 weeks ago

I am so sorry you have been through such pain. I imagine it must be wonderful to have a supportive family.

I have never tipped over the edge or needed medical intervention or drugs etc but I just feel so angry and despairing at the state of this world, mainly directed toward those who cause it.

I don't think living alone helps and I refuse to burden my loved ones as they have to find their way without helping me too.

I am a strong and resilient person but as I get older and life seems to offer nothing in my future it is hard not to give in to the desire to not be bothered with doing anything lately. Cooking, going out, meeting friends, shopping......It all seems pretty pointless. But like you have done I will climb out of this black hole soon as I know there are many far worse off than me and I have no right to wallow.

Take care x

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SilverSurfer
SilverSurfer4 weeks ago

I agree this current time is quite a challenge but times change and some people will like it and some wont but not much we can do about.

I'm stuck in a situation where the country has went backwards, run by the most corrupt government ever, still has a royal family, poverty sky high in a very wealth country and a society that seems to be more concerned over Joe Bloggs claiming an extra £20 week rather than billions being siphoned out the country.

Mental health has been brought to the surface because things in the past it has been supressed too much and told its wrong. Its 2021 and people still think homosexuality is still wrong?

We have always been living in a mad weird world

I would say how we could get out the chaos but your post will get shut down because 2 topics are part of the problem but you aren't allowed to talk about them.

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beccatavender
beccatavender3 weeks ago

I know exactly how you feel, last year I couldn't get out of bed as I have no motivation to do anything. It was a reaction to all that happening in the world plus the grief of losing my Mum earlier in the year. I couldnt keep a clear thought & realised I need something to help me get back to me.

Just be kind to yourself,

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Lynibis
Lynibis
Original Poster
3 weeks ago

You are right about motivation, I must try harder to complete a goal each day and keep busy.

I hope you are feeling better now and coping.

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beccatavender
beccatavender3 weeks ago

It takes time and I started not to watch the news and to actively try to concentrate of trying to be in the moment, concentrating on things I enjoyed, reading listening to music. It took me ages to rediscover what made me happy Lynibis

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Lynibis
Lynibis
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3 weeks ago

beccatavender good advice, I need to stop reading bad news!

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davidstockport
davidstockport3 weeks ago

Lynibis I actually think reading bad new can be helpful, it makes one realise that no matter how bad things might seem; others are perhaps much worse off, trying to help them can also boost the coping system.

I also consider that being on ones own, is quite different than being lonely.

When I'm on my own I'm in good company. I sometimes pity those who aren't. 😃

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beccatavender
beccatavender3 weeks ago

Talking personally, it made me feel worst as I then felt guilty of feeling down as like you said lots of people are worst off davidstockport

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davidstockport
davidstockport3 weeks ago

beccatavender Don't feel guilty about feeling down - you're entitled to be. It can help thinking about the good times even though at first it might seem to make things worse the good memories will eventually overpower the ones that make you feel down.

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telmel
telmel3 weeks ago

I feel so sad after reading about what everyone posting here has or is going through

If you have any feelings of depression please, please talk to someone , a family member , a friend or even use a helpline, the worse thing is to suffer alone

Even posting here is a positive thing, there are some good people on LD who will empathise

These times are unprescedented , the pandemic has amplified problems tenfold , i try to concentrate on the positives and put the negatives to the back of my mind , its hard to do but it's the only way to retain some sanity

If you have money problems for example think how lucky you might be healthwise

If you have health problems money doesnt help but we have a fantastic NHS , overworked at the moment but still the best in the world , thats a positive in itself

Times have been worse in the past, i cannot imagine how people must have felt during WW2 for example, losing their homes and loved ones to bombings and war , the trauma people must have suffered and there was almost no mental support for them then

You have to think this way to get through it all , i dislike that saying 'we are all in the same boat', we are not , some are in the water and struggling , they are the ones that need greater support

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MelissaLee1963
MelissaLee19633 weeks ago

Just thinking today I had fallen asleep and woken up in a different world. Just continue being your best self Lynibis .

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telmel
telmel3 weeks ago

I hope this chat stays at the top of the page , its a good honest subject that we all should be talking about

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lilyflower
lilyflower3 weeks ago

"It's good to share" no matter how you do it. I originally had no one to 'share' with, my ex just told me to 'pull myself together', GP put me on Prozac! which made me worse. I then discovered self-help, I felt better when out doors, or doing things, and that was the start of a long association helping in school and the community. Keeping busy kept me motivated and occupied. I'm here if anyone wants to talk.

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BonzoBanana
BonzoBanana3 weeks ago

Just reading this I'd like to wish everyone in this thread the best and maximum mental health if there is such a thing. I don't think we should take ourselves too seriously, we have a time on earth and try to do the things that interest you and you enjoy and live your life. There is a lot of terrible things happening in the world including on your doorstep sometimes but we shouldn't be pre-occupied by those. To be a human being is an amazing thing, easy access to amazing food, entertainment and so many things to see and do. So much to learn. After suffering from covid I get pleasure now just from filling my lungs with air and breathing comfortably. I also get pleasure from my cat just curled up in my arms on the sofa and purring slightly as he sleeps. Even a good walk cheers me up sometimes. If you can get some pleasure from the simple things in life then I think you are doing well.

I personally think my mental health has improved since stopping my tv license about 3 years ago. I now no longer watch live tv and to be honest I think the world seems better without it. Maybe ignorance is bliss.

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SarahHorsfield
SarahHorsfield3 weeks ago

Li suffer with my MH

And last year was the worst ever

But luckily pulled through it

But I do say with kids today they don’t really know how to communicate unless over a phone over or a tablet

I take my daughter phone away n it’s like taking her arm

But what the main point is we don’t really talk

I don’t really know my neighbours

Not like 30/40 years ago where everyone knew each other n everyone outside

Go to a supermarket and a machine scans your shopping

I avoid self checkout because I like to chat to the worker

I even say morning or smile as I walk pass someone that might be their only human interaction

I would really love to go back to basics

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Lynibis
Lynibis
Original Poster
3 weeks ago

Omg, you don't know how much I agree with you. We have online deliveries for all our needs, remote controls, zoom meetings/socials, meds delivered etc. I know for some sections of society these things are a godsend but they all serve to estrange us from each other.

When I was a young housewife garden fences were only waist high and neighbours chatted and passed each other tea/coffee, home baked cake and always asked if they needed anything when going shopping.

Now we are hemmed in by 6ft high fences and walls for our 'privacy' without giving a thought to how that isolates us even more.

I must stop as I could rant on about this.

I am glad you came out the other side and I wish you continued health in mind and body x

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SarahHorsfield
SarahHorsfield3 weeks ago

Lynibis thank you

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telmel
telmel3 weeks ago

I agree with all the comments here, and isolation is one of the social killers in our society

We don't interact any more , at least not the way we used to

A typical example is online shopping, it makes the job easier so items are delivered to your door , but the human aspect has been removed, you are not going out shopping to meet people and get the full social experience , the only friend you meet is the delivery driver, and he or she is only there for a few seconds

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Lynibis
Lynibis
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3 weeks ago

And they are usually pressed for time so cannot spare a few minutes for a chat.

They must dread coming to me as I chat throughout unloading my groceries, though I don't hold them up and unload very quickly!

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Pjran
Pjran3 weeks ago

My husband always engages the delivery drivers in conservation because he always says it must be sole destroying if they don’t talk.

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