Should Parents Help Pay for the Wedding?

My parents paid for the venue, the food and the band. We paid for the rest. My parents offered to pay for those items but they said they would only pay for a certain amount of guests. Husbands family helped out too. It certainly helped as meant we could afford a bigger deposit on our house.

My parents paid for the dress and bridesmaids dresses. My aunt paid for the wine. We paid for everything else.

I got married when I just turned 18, despite my parents not wanting me to so young. Hindsight eh? Anyway, my parents had no money, so when I left school I started work. So both my ex and myself paid for our own wedding. I think now more than then, most couples do pay for their own wedding.

My Dad was able to give us some towards our wedding which paid for the hire of a hall for the afternoon and evening. but we had to pay for most of it. We were very greatful to our church who clubbed together to do all the catering for the afternoon reception and the evening do - we just paid for the food itself - all the cooking, presentation etc was done for us by members of the church. Friends their also paid for the Jag to drive us to and from the church. Would have been a much reduced wedding day without all their help

I had a small wedding.My mum put money behind the bar.Hubby and I paid for the venue, the food and the music .My stepson paid for the church.I'm in the choir so my mates did the music.

Honestly it is your decision to get married, so pay for it yourself lol. If parents want to contribute then it’s up to them, they shouldn’t feel they have to.

I think it is lovely if parents have children then they can consider offering something towards a wedding. I don't agree with it being all down to the bride's parents, what happens in same sex weddings? You don't choose the gender of your children, one person might end up having 3 boys, someone else could end up with 3 girls, not their choice.

I think it is lovely, thoughtful but shouldn't be expected.

Sadly I come from a background and always have of.. if you want anything.. pay for it yourself.

We didn't get pocket money, a phone contract paid for us etc. We had to save any birthday money and Christmas money from friends and relatives when we were very small if we wanted something. Then into adulthood we paid for all our own driving lessons ourselves etc. I did however get some help with my college kit and our school lunches. Sadly this sometimes makes me too worried about spending ANY money even on essentials, but then there are other people who get themselves into trouble spending more than they have, so I probably prefer it the way I've been brought up with the money values. I just have to try not to compare myself to others when they could just ask for anything or felt they could ask to borrow some money and no pressure to pay it back immediately, even though I would have paid it back as soon as I could.

I do understand some parents don't have money to offer, but I feel if you consider being a parent, you should want to try and save for your children's future for some aspect of it.

I totally agree with HappyCamperZoe

Believe parents shouldn't have to pay for the wedding.

If they old enough to get married then they old enough to pay for their own wedding.

And it's not fair for the brides parents to pay some or most of the wedding costs.

There's simple and cheaper ways to say I do.

If I wanted to get married it's my choice. I'd pay. But we are happy not getting married

I paid a large portion towards both my daughters weddings but only 1 of the outlaws helped I felt that it wasn’t my duty but something I wanted to do and loved being mother of the bride looking on and thinking I helped create this

They should offer to pay for 1 or 2 things but the couple getting married should pay the majority of costs for there own wedding

If its their own, then yes . If you mean for the kids then only if they want to see their grandchildren